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The inappropriate stories are 1. Pretty intimate and 2. Displaying a wild side of myself that makes me shutter now. I went from timid to a wild college girl that took way too many chances in public in the name of fun.
A PG example is when I bought a swim suit that consisted of a bikini top and high waisted bottom, that I tried to wear at the beach north of LA. I couldn’t get it to work so my husband (boyfriend at the time) talked me into wearing a cloth diaper and plastic pants under a towel wrapped around my waist. I spent the day walking the beach and flashing a few.... Also sitting on the beach in full diaper display. It’s ammazing that only a few noticed. Sand DOES get past plastic pants....

Ellyn, That has happen to me also, but I also worked with this neighbor. they were on vacation, but his niece was house sitting. He calls me the next day and tells me about the packages. Well, they were not shipped discreet, labels all over the box. I'm pretty sure she told him the labels, but nothing was said.

I have regular incontinence orders from various online companies as well as Amazon. I receive shipments every few weeks and this was the first time that I was embarrassed by a neighborhood delivery error. I did have another shipment that disappeared but that order was refunded and reordered. Now, I hope for the best, which is about all you can do.

LOL. That's awesome! Something you don't consider until you find out the hard way!

Since going 24/7, we have largely avoided the beach, other than an occasional walk while on vacation. At some point, I'm going to have to suck it up and spend a day at the beach though.

A couple embarrassing moments for me: I was telling a friend about my situation in his office. He wanted me to help him out part-time and I felt he needed to understand that I may have to step away at times to deal with things. He was very understanding. As I was leaving his office, I flooded my diaper which resulted in a huge growing wet spot down my leg! His eyes looked down and I could see the empathy in his face. Nothing more was said about it.

Another time, before I retired from the fire department, I was prepping for surgery on my bladder. Rather than go in and have an EKG run at the hospital, I was allowed to have one of the medics at the department do it. I lifted my shirt up so she could attach the electrodes and there in full view were the wings of my diaper, sticking out of my pants! Duh!

One of the worst, however, was also at the station. I had gone to the restroom to change and must not have gotten the lock secure. Just as I was taping up the new diaper, one of the firefighters opened the door, not 3 feet away from me! He quickly shut the door. I pulled him aside later and asked him to be discrete about it. As far as I know, he never said anything to anyone.

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Something similar happen to me also. I vented about it in the below link and brought my post here. I have since put a pin through the pocket door preventing it from opening. about 2 years later, I had a young 20 something female thought she would be cute and quickly open the door. The pin stopped her along with breaking some of her nails. I explained to her what it meant to have a door shut, partially shut and fully open. Shut means only disturb if the building is on fire, partially means proceed with caution. open free to come in.

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Still trying to process this, but here it goes. I had an accident at work and wanted to change into a dry diaper. Only 2 hours were left, but the way my bladder was acting I knew I had better be safe than sorry. I don't change in the bathrooms as they are small and heavily trafficked so all noises will be heard. I had shut my door and tugged on it a little to make sure the pocket door hook was engaged. I was wrong; right in the middle of changing in my office a coworker knocked on the door and started to open it. I don't know how much he saw, but he saw enough to quickly shut the door. He begin apologizing saying sorry your door was shut I should not have opened it. I was in shock and really didn't know what to say. My door was shut and I thought was latch. The only thing I can think of was by him knocking like he did it popped the inside latch so the door could open. I quickly finished up and open the door. He apologized again, Since I was on the spot and didn't know how much he had seen I was going to tell him I have to wear things because of a condition I have. He quickly cut me off saying "I just saw you changing clothes" and left it at that. Although, we both know there was no reason for me to be changing clothes in the work day. He talked to me about why he had come over to my office than we went back to our separate offices and finished out the work day or should I say I tried to finish the work day. For most of that time I was trying to process what he could have seen. Shaking my head and saying to myself "the door was 'f'ing shut. Why did you open it without me saying come in?" WTH and a few other choice words went through my head. It seems I went into autopilot mode and started to do the end of my work day routine. At the end of the day, I saw him and said I am schedule to have the next two days off and will be back after the weekend and thanks for the discretion earlier. He said enjoy the time off and nothing about the incident earlier. As much as I sometimes let this job get to me, I tell myself it pays well and it is tough out there finding a new job. Especially now since I would want something that could possible offer the privacy I would like. So come Monday, I will have to see him again and still wonder how much he saw and hope he doesn't say anything to my supervisor. As if life is not difficult enough.

I would like this site better if that subject never came up.

on 2 hands the fetish bit annoys me. the only possible benefit to folks like myself that has no choice in the matter of incontinence is possible
product improvements due to that crowd....It's probably not the best day for me to respond being in severe gastric distress all damn day but
I remember back in the 80s when dealing with the start of my issues a simple trip to the local Med supply house was in order to get needed supplies.
vs starting in the 90s with the internet came a much wider choice of supplies. "HDIS back in the 90s were one if not the first online retailer" but also
while searching for new products you cannot miss the onslaught of the fetish world. Just search amazon for adult diaper and a good chunk of the first page
is fetish stuff. even northshore is dipping its toes into that world now. I have accepted that finally and will just choose to to ignore it. the scroll wheel on my mouse
is there for a reason. I would not be surprised if some of the product improvements seen these days have some basis in the fetish world.
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folks that want to purposely fill a diaper amaze me. off to the shower again as the day/night continues.

My point exactly except I’m not a all sure that I owe my selection of products to the fetish crowd though.
Plain white prefolds
Plain plastic pants
Plain premium quality adult diapers
Plain pull-ups
Plain incontinence pads
No baby prints. No pastel colors. No pasifiers. No frills. Etc...
I use the same products I used 25 years ago, before the fetish influence and products, and I doubt pull-ups came along to serve the fetish folks
When I look online for products that I use regularly, I usually buy from the same sites that are mostly non-fetish servers. When I check amazon and other searches for items, I get irritated because these search results showing fetish crap is exactly why truly incontinent people get funny looks, laughs, and other cruel reactions.
Personally, I don’t appreciate being stereotyped!

I'd like to wade in here just bit with a slightly different view on this. First, I am not at all AB/DL but do pretty much believe in to each his own if it doesn't affect someone else. That said the fetish stigma you are talking about may only really affect the younger incontinent group. If you're "young" it's assumed you don't ever need diapers, and therefore others might think you are wearing them for other (fetish?) reasons. But if you are in the "older" group (say 50 and up?) then the general perception might be that you are older and therefore probably need them for incontinence reasons, which is a bad enough stigma in itself.

But now to change gears a bit. I think that there is a difference between fetish and fashion. Case in point is when Northshore came out with their colored Norhtshore Supreme Lites I thought it might be nice to have something to wear other than plain medical white diapers. When I wore regular underwear I sometimes wore other colors so why not now? So I ordered a bag of the dark blue and when they came I put one on and something interesting happened. When I looked in the mirror for the first time in several years I didn't feel quite so incontinent! It actually raised my spirits for a while and when my Wife saw me in one she called me a "Diaper Fashionista" which I actually got a chuckle from. When was the last time your diaper did that for you? BTW... The dark blue does have a very subtle dot print which reminds me of a moonlit night and every once in while when my incontinence issues are getting me down I grab one of the blue Northshore's to lift my spirits just a bit. I really don't see anything wrong with that.

Thank you Padded53 for your reply and point of view. Over the early years, I have been the subject of some pretty hurtful teasing and other harassment to the point of hyper sensitivity about some subjects.
I go through bouts of mild depression which takes awhile to move through sometimes.
I’m very sorry if I made you in any way uncomfortable.

HI Ellyn:
You didn't make me uncomfortable at all. I reread my post and realized I should have worded things a little differently. When I said "When was the last time your diaper did that?" I was actually trying to be funny, not trying to challenge you. Hey, I probably should have put a smily face after it!
Speaking of challenges, I would like to recommend that you contact Northshore Supply and ask for a three color sample pack of their Norhtshore Supreme Lite diapers. Please just try one on and when you look in the mirror you just might be as surprised as I was at how it makes you feel. The only thing I ask (if I may) is that you let us know, good, bad, or indifferent how that went.
Finally I want to say how much I am enjoying Your and Sandy's posts. It is so refreshing to have a female point of view on incontinence.