Vandel Fisher wrote:
I recomend thinking twice regarding people like B Brian. He did go over the line from time to time, but he wasn't someone like diapered Mommy [AKA Trufit girl] who seems to have come here exclusivly to persue an ABDL agenda. For the most part he tried to keep to the spirit of this site, and was from the better members regarding his good comments. Maybe we should adopt a policy of rejecting sin but not the sinners, by having the moderaters simply deleting the times he crosses the line. Chances are, after a few times he will learn himself where the line is.
Thanks for you thoughts Vandel. Just wanted to take a few moments to reply and say my part. As far as banning Brian, he did get second thoughts. As a matter of fact he got second, third, forth thoughts ect, ect. I don't think anyone here is looking for people to kick out of the group. That is not the point of he group. What is the point is to create a space, different then most other places on the net where those suffering from incontinence can come to for information and support. There is absolutely no benefit or support to pointing out you wear for fun and/or why. In fact this is what makes a lot of people uncomfortable and unwilling to open up. Granted, a lot of the people here are thicker skin enough to look past this behavior and move on but my concerns are not for those members. Those members have gotten the benefit of the forum and are now at a place where they are not emotionally effected as bad as I assume they once were. My attention are for the newer members that have not gotten to that point yet and may feel like they are drowning in a sea of that world because they can not escape it.
As for just deleting any questionable post, me personally feel if I leave the post so others can read for themselves what is across the line will act as a deterrent to any others thinking along the same lines. This way I won't have to keep pointing out to people what has crossed the line. Another benefit is members will see we are serious about keeping incontinentsupport.org exactly what it is and keep reassuring them this is a site dedicated to medical incontinence only.