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I hope things work out for your friend with the new guy she is dating. I did not believe I would ever find someone that would be able to deal with my incontinence. It will soon be 1 year on March 5th that I met the most wonderful woman. She is amazing and I love her dearly. It was extremely difficult for me to tell her about me being incontinent but she never batted and eye. She was so totally accepting of it. To her it is not a big deal what so ever. She does a great deal of sewing and quilting and has made me some of the best diapers I have ever had. She is truely a dream come true.

Well date number two seemed to go ok. I think she is not telling me something When I was talking to her yesterday she seemed to be holding something back that made her feel uncomfortable. She said they went out for dinner then they drove around for awhile caught a late movie and he took her home. She was saying he's been trying to hold her hand while walking or even just driving. At the movie he but his arm over her shoulders. Jane said she feels very cautious right now as to his advances. She told me last week she is going to do what we did and not engage in sex before marriage. Her words I'm not dropping my pants for any man unless I'm married to him I hope she keeps her word on this. For those of you wondering about the diaper issue. She has said nothing as of yet about that.
.................................Sandy

I hope it works out well for her.

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Sandy,
Thanks for keeping us up to date. I am still praying things continue to work our for her. I too hopes she keeps her words. I know with you and your husband around for the support will make things easier for her.

Hi guys
Thought I'd let you know Jane has now been seeing the Mechanic in the shop I think I mention that one of our guys has had his eye on her for sometime. Well him and I were talking one night after work. Jane came up in the conversation. I told him I knew he liked her. How could you tell he said I could tell He said yes I think she is real special he said. But I'm really shy. I said well in someways she is also. And he said he feels that because he's just a mechanic and always has dirt under his nails and often smells like an engine, That a girl like her isn't going to go for a guy like him. I said just a MECHANIC. Come on! I said you should be proud of what you are, Who you are and what you do Your a very good mechanic. If you weren't my husband would have sent you done the road along time ago. Beside she was married to a semi driver and let me tell you he wasn't anything to talk about :roll

Well to make a long story short. I said I wasn't going to get involved But I did,Hey I'm a female it's in my DNA to get involved A couple of weeks ago shortly after this conversation I sent Jane and him on a parts Run. To The Mercury Plant in Fondulac. Really Jane could have gone by herself on this one. But well you know I gave the Mechanic we'll call him Berry $40.00 and told him to take her to lunch My husband wasn't real hot on this. He said Jane can do this herself! I said well yes but these two need to get something else done also He shook his head and walked away. then turned and said are we paying for this date on the clock I wanted to lie but I said yes we are I left out the 40 bucks part. He was about to say something else and than he threw up his hands and walked away

Well it worked They have been out a few times since. They really get along great together. She still talks to the other guy from the bank. Maybe more so because he keeps calling her. But I think he's history now She just doesn't want to be mean. She's hoping he will take a hint. But I think she is just going to have to tell him the way it is

Things started to get uncomfortable with him. Well more about that later I've got to get to work I'm being paged to go to the shop. All for now ...........................Sandy

LOL....easy there Sandy....I'm a truck driver and I'm something to talk about

Well we took Jane and Berry out to dinner last night. Berry was an absolute Gentleman last night. He was very respectful, very kind, well mannered. He treated Jane like a Queen. I could tell Jane was Very Happy He would open doors for Jane pull out her chair for her. He even new what some of the funky stuff was on the menu. Dinners that had French names or Italian names. He was explaning them to Jane. I was thinking he's allot like my husband I asked my husband last night after we got home if he had given berry any tips/lessons He said Nope I had nothing to do with it

We had a nice time Berry was a joy to have around. Berry has worked for us for sometime now. This was really the first time we have ever spent any amount of time with him away from work.

I talked to him a little bit this morning when he came in. It was just him and I in the shop. I asked him are you always like that with a women. He said always what?? I said so polite He said well I don't know how do you mean? You seem to have away of always putting the female first. He said I was raised to always put the female ahead of me. My father always treated women with the utmost respect. And I've always looked up to my father. And have always wanted to be like him. My father said a women is to be cherished guarded and protected.

I have to tell you I'm still wondering if he is for real or not If he is what a find .......................Sandy

Sandy,
It's so refreshing to read some good news about Jane. She's had so much grief with her previous husband. I hope things continue to go her way. I'm hoping to hear more good reports about her. Keep up the good work with her. She's lucky to have you as a dear friend....... Paul Martin

Update

Things are still going well for Jane and Berry. So far he still seems for real Jane hasn't said a word about the diaper thing yet. Jane said Berry made a comment about her overgrown purse. Jane has one of those small duffel size purses. So she can keep a few diapers in there if the need arises. She said she told him having a purse this size is best. This way she had a place for the kitchen sink

Jane said they do kiss each other good night or good bye But no hanky panky. I guess they did talk about sex. Jane laid out the ground rules NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE Berry said he was fine with that and agreed that's the way it should be. (WOW)

Another BIG plus is Berry does Real well with the kids. He is very patient understanding and will even volunteer to change a stinky diaper. Yes I said Volunteer As much as I love Janes kids I don't mind at all if Berry takes the kids once in awhile. Janes Mother was commenting on that as well. She also stated how nice it was to have Berry around. She said there is a night and day difference between Berry and Janes X

She told Jane you had better hang on to this one Jane said she's planning on it

..............................Sandy

Sandy,
I'm happy for Jane. I hope and pray this will work out for her. She deserves to get a break after what she's been through. Once Berry finds out Jane's problem, I think he'll understand and support her.......Paul Martin