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It's real late here in Central Florida and I stayed up to watch a TV show and it's pouring down raining outside. Not only is it soaked outside but my diaper is soaked too so it's time to change for bed. OK, nothing new there but my stack of nighttime diapers is zero and I have to open a new bag, which I do have on hand. Well no real problem but the funny thing is that opening a new bag of diapers is one of the only things that tends to depress me a bit about my incontinence. I've had to wear for well over three years now and I know it's just underwear with logistics but somehow opening a new bag drives home the fact that I'll probably be doing this for the rest of my life. Somehow none of the day to day things seem to bother me too much anymore, I've even (pretty much) gotten use to my Wife seeing me put on a diaper. Somehow having to open that new bag of diapers just bums me out every time. Sorry for the rant but I know I'm among friends here.

Hi Padded53

We all need to vent once and a while, thats one of the great things about this form is we are all here to support each other and we all understand your feelings and its a safe bet we all feel the same way at times.

When I feel down about being back in diapers as an adult I try to remind my self its not that bad of an medical issue to deal with its not going to kill me, theres no pain, I can do everything I could before my bladder issue happened (Except swimming).

Try not to feel bummed about a medical issue you have no control of and try to be happy all it takes to deal with the issue is to wear a diaper and never loose hope that one day you will be out of diapers again medical advancements happen all the time so we never know when we will get a call from our urologist to say he may have a solution.

Mine was when my wife picked me up at the car rental place yesterday and had 2 of her friends with her. they all three had been shopping and the trunk was full and I had to rearrange the entire trunk just to fit my almost empty suitcase in and other items.

I love the "underwear with logistics" term.

I think part of living life is learning that we will likely lose things we took for granted or even appreciated. I used to have pretty awesome hair. Gone. I used to be in great shape. Five years of marriage and dating the woman I love, and I wonder if I could jog a mile nonstop. Even my eyesight is starting to get weak.

Incontinence is, in my opinion, just another one of those things. On the plus side, with the right planning and products, it barely registers for me on a daily basis. I think I'm fortunate to be wired in a way that I *can* ignore it, and not everyone is like that.

Just wanted to say that I get that some stuff sucks and reminds you how much it sucks. No shame in being rightfully frustrated.

I see my heath issues much the way as you most of the time. My husband’s favorite saying, “it is what it is”, sums it up well. Either cry about it or try to make the best of it., which is what I challenge myself to do daily Thing is I’ve dealt with this my whole life. There have been very difficult days (weeks to months...) and very good days. When multiple difficult symptoms gang up on me, often they are a trigger for depression for me.
We own a ranch in Texas, which takes a lot of my time. I don’t have a lot of time to feel sorry for myself so it’s “suck it up buttercup” and move forward.

I have read that there are tens of millions of us in the USA alone, not to mention other countries. Incontinence, either single or double, is an undeniable challenge. But meeting that challenge successfully can be a source of well-earned pride. Most folks are so wrapped up in themselves, their problems, their schedules, that they do not realize that we are standing next to them. I count that as an ego-satisfying victory.

Patrick, very well said!

--John

This is essentially the truth I use in my life. I have had some REALLY tough challenges in my life, and I have met and beaten them all. That's pretty special. You ALL have had challenges with which you struggle, and you all fight to meet and beat them. Strength of character isn't about how tough you "look", it's about how tough you are to keep down.