www.incontinentsupport.org

I guess I'm less concerned by the stigma than I should be. No stigma can withstand an assault from the profit motive. Incontinence supplies are widely available in supermarkets, big box stores, and drug stores nation-wide, and likely, planet-wide. The market for those supplies must be huge, or they wouldn't be so widely available. The stigma's days are numbered.

I still remember those times when I was very closed to the outside world person. It was when my incontinence has hit me with its heaviest and I was truly afraid of this - I didn't know how to cope with this, I didn't know how to live anymore. Simply put - I have been lost, but everything has changed after a few years of intensive therapist sessions and most importantly - when I have realized that there is no point in crying under the bed about my issues. That I have to man up and do what I should do - face the reality and enjoy the life to the fullest of my possibility. I also realized, that all of us - people around you - we all have different sort of problems and everyone is doing their best to cope with those problems. This is what I have realized and frankly it took me a while to learn that. As for now, sure - I have a lot of people that I can talk to or people that can relate to my issues. Once I have manned up and admitted to my friends that around me about my issues I have started living more content life and whenever I need something my friends or family are able to deliver, although I have already learnt how to manage alone in this world, but it's not the case. The point is that once I have told the truth to my friends, I felt so much better and I still have the very same friends that can support me despite knowing about my incontinence issues.

Congratulations for facing life squarely, especially when that life includes incontinence. Bravo!

add my wife to the list of understanding partners. We discussed my urge incontinence shortly before I proposed and she was very understanding. She has never shamed me and understands and supports my medical decisions regarding the condition.

I am also her someone to talk to as she also has OAB. She uses Tena overnight pads which she makes me purchase. Oddly they aren't available for a cheaper price online so I get them from walgreens, target or walmart for her. This forum has really helped me give her support and advice. She went through, like many people, a period of less episodes this winter and thought perhaps she was cured... only to have it come with a vengeance this summer.

Even though she is supportive of me wearing diapers she is adamantly opposed to it herself and is perpetually asking me if her pad is showing... If her OAB progresses, as I fear it may, she might not have a choice but to up her protection...but we'll cross that bridge if we come to it.

She is also intensely private so she has forbid me from telling any family or friends about either of our conditions... so other than her, her mom, and my doctors, I don't talk about it with anyone else.