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Hi Sandy

Thats wonderfull that she can work with you now.
You have sure helped her out a lot and others on here as well.

Update on Jane

Jane is doing a great job for us. She still struggles with the computer and it seems the copier doesn't like her But other wise she is doing real well. My husband is already talking about giving her a raise.

We did have one off moment last week We were working outside and one of our regular customers blurted out at Jane "Do You Wear DIAPERS" Jane turned as red as you could turn red. You could tell she wanted to run and hide! I was just around the back side of a boat when this happen. I came around jumped in and said YES! of course we both do DON"T! YOU! he said very loud as if in shock NOOO! Then I said O well maybe you should start shrugged my shoulder's and grabbed Jane and began to walk away. He Laughed and told me what a kidder I was and walked away.

I took Jane in the house where she broke down and cried and I talked her through it. My husband came in and saw Jane upset. I told him what happen he said that sounds like that guys speed So he gave Jane a hug and talked to her as well. Everything seems OK now But that really hurt Jane. I've never seen her fall apart like that before.

We were talking about it the other night and we aren't sure what gave her away She had on baggie shorts and a loose T-shirt that hung down past her crotch? So she was dressed right. Maybe something showed when she bent over

Got to go my name is being called...................Sandy

Sandy,
I can't believe that customer could so presumtuous and say that! This will only cause Jane to more embarrassed when encounters him again.
Like you said in your post, how in the heck he suspected that she was wearing a diaper? I wonder if someone tipped him off. If Jane was wearing a long T-shirt as you said, bending over should not expose it.
You need to give Jane extra support for a while, which I know you will.
That was a good line to tell him when he confronted her. Jane is extremely lucky to have you as her friend. It was great of you to put yourself in her position to say you wore a diaper too. Hopefully, he'll just shrug this off, and it will not come up again. ............Paul Martin

What we are thinking (Jane and I) is that maybe when she was bending over her shorts pulled tight and the bulge/outline of her diaper showed.

Thinking back that was pretty good on my part to jump in like that. I guess I didn't really think about it at the time. But I've done that in other situations as well. Sometimes the most abrupt honest (how should I say) in your face response is the way to do it. That guy's mind was more in shock the other day and trying to sort out what was going on. then actually realizing that really I was being honest and telling him that we both wear diapers But then your also dealing with a guy that definitely does not qualify as the sharpest knife in the drawer.

Jane has been a little more up tight since. She has asked me a few times if she is showing at all. Today she maybe was a little bit but then I didn't know if it was just because I knew or? I didn't say anything.

I'm being called got to go............................Sandy

Sandy,
It's a blessing that Jane has the support you and your husband has given. The mind shock you gave that guy as you said was great. I pray that whe the day comes that I have to deal with something like that, I can be as bold and you. Thank you for being such a support for Jane and all of us here.

WOW it's been a while since I posted hasn't it . Well a little up date in my life in general.
Jane is still working out better then expected She has been such a incredible blessing for everyone here (customers included) Jane and I are still spending a fair amount of time working together but often times it's not because we have to. It's because we enjoy each other and we want to work together. Jane is getting to the point that I would feel comfortable to leave for a few days and leave her run the counter at the shop and the other things that go with that.

Something a little off subject but funny I wanted to share with you all. Jane and I were out back the other day draining boat covers after some recent rains came through.

What is it about cool water and your hands related to the Bladder. I know from experience that if there is one way to empty your bladder that is sticking your hands in cool water. Not so much cold but cool Anyway the first cover Jane went to drain she took her hand pushed the cover down on the edge to allow the water to run out from the center where it had pooled. When that water rushed out across her hand I noticed her straighten up (not real abruptly) but she seem to straighten up and she had a little bit of a look of how should I say it oops I looked at her and said did something else empty as well She turned a little red and nodded well that's when I laughed I told her I can't tell you how many times that has happen to me We were talking about that afterwards What is that about

I'm being called all for now.......................Sandy

While I have a little time this morning I wanted to update you on my young friend.
She is doing well The dress making business still seems to be going well. She did log a good number of hours in her custom made bikinis She even went to the beach but had on a pair of shorts over her bottoms. She said if I was you sandy maybe I'd been brave enough to take the shorts off.
I laughed I said if you were me you would have had on a shirt over your top as well:!:

She did try the no plastic idea. as was talked about earlier and just let the urine leak right through. She said it wasn't bad laying on a plastic lounge chair out on the lawn. But she stated she didn't feel like it was real responsible of her to be doing this. She did say that she did it several times but that the chair began to smell because the urine had gone between the plastic webbing. She said she did hose it down each time she had done this. But it would appear that she was unable to wash it out completely. So she has abandon that idea.

She is still wearing mostly Cloth at home both day and night. But still only wears disposables when away from home.

Her mother and her were over the other night for a while. I've been seeing her mother more often the her most of the summer. But she is still around. I was telling her mother that I've been with Jane so much now that I almost feel as though I've been ignoring her daughter She told me that her daughter has been so busy that she hasn't had much time either and to not worry about that. We both still love you

I'm sure when things finally slow down latter this fall we will all be able to spend more time together (Jane my young friend and her mother and myself)

All for now.......................Sandy

Well it finally happen Janes husband finally went to far as far as my husband goes. We went out last night the four of us to a Super Club We bought it was Janes birthday a few days ago. Well everything started out OK until about 1/2 way through the meal Janes husband disappeared when he stated he had to go to the rest room. Well it appears he also stopped at the bar and had a few. He comes back to us and it's not long and he starts with the mouth. Jane say you promised you wouldn't get drunk So there goes the night

Well it got better (or worse) on the way home he said a few more insulting things and about 3-5 miles from town my Husband SLAMS on the brakes!! I thought What in the world!!! He said THAT'S IT!! He gets out of the car goes around the other side of the car opens the rear Door and tells Janes Husband to GET OUT! He refused so my husband grabbed him by the shirt collar and dragged him out. He lay ed into him for about 5 min.

He told him that When you insult Jane it would be the same as if you were insulting my Sister or My wife he said. He told him there isn't anything I or Sandy wouldn't do for Jane and the Kids. Jane and the Kids are like our own Family we love them as if they were our own family. And he said a few other things that we didn't here because he shut the door. My husband then gets back in the car and we drive off leaving Janes husband standing on the shoulder of the road

Jane said this morning that he did show up very early in the morning this morning took a shower grab some clothes and drove away not saying a word to her

My husband was kind of giggling this morning while we ate breakfast. He said he kept seeing Jane's husbands eyes bulging out of his skull and also that he was shaking head to toe. The best part was is He wasn't positive but he thinks the guy messed him self. He said something stunk bad :lol\

...........................Sandy

My hat is off to your husband. What a wonderful thing he did. Reading this brought tears to my eyes, so glad someone was able to stand up and put things in perspective for Jane's husband. I pray now that not only had his bowels been opened, lol, sorry about that, but his eyes and his heart be pricked so much that he will finally realize the gift God gave him instead of being such a @&#^$%.

Sandy, tell your husband that he is a true hero and I know God is going to bless the both of you for all you have done and are doing.

Well it now seems that Janes husband is still not speaking to her. In fact he's been staying at a friends place she said. I asked her how she felt about it. She said to be honest I don't care. The kids are upset about it. She said she did call him and leave a message on his cell about the kids. Telling him that if he wanted to pick them up he would be welcome to do so. No response I'm not one for divorce but I'm thinking that's where this one is heading. ..............Sandy