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i agree. waking up once at night might not be a big deal. but trying to get up 4-5 times or even 2-3... that can be pretty disruptive especially if the diapers are not of the sort that amenable to undoing without having to but new ones on. (That can get expensive and wasteful) In any case sleep deprivation can be more disabling to functioning anyways. I rarely wear diapers at night...but I can understand the other poster's reasoning. Being practical does not mean one is lazy.

For me, I think accepting that i needed to wear diapers and recognizing as frustrated as I was about the lack of control over my bowels and my body...that being frustrated about lack of control...AND being incontinent in my clothes was worse. It definitely helped to wear them in terms of anxiety and fear. I still have a hard time with the control thing. Fortunately it is not all the time.

call it lazy, call it convenience, call it whatever you want. it is really about the personal choices we make and how we manage to accept those choices.

lazy just sounds negative. like slothful. better to just be happy with what appears to be an adequit management system and a goodnight's sleep. get back to me in a few years. attitudes change. sometimes. i know as my acceptance grew i felt stronger about not ever being rushed. granted, i was conditioned by repeated failures to avoid soiling accidents. the frustration can become consuming. the choices i've made effectively manage, are convenient, and most importantly, acceptable to me.
jack

I have urge incontinence and insomnia, so I figgured I would chime in.
It usually takes me 2-3 hours a night to finally fall asleep, waking up almost hourly, and at times not being able to return to sleep at all.
Factor that in with urges almost every night that usually result in accidents more often than not!
I do rarely wet in my sleep, as I don't sleep consistantly long enough for it to happen. I would LOVE to be able to sleep through the night, even if it meant a wet diaper every morning (which it usually is, as changing 2 times a night is rediculous!)

Given his situation and mine, I am very upset that you would think of it as being lazy! You should be glad you aren't struggling to get something so simple as sleep that most everyone takes for granted.

Please don't be so hasty to judge people in the future.

Given his situation and mine, I am very upset that you would think of it as being lazy! You should be glad you aren't struggling to get something so simple as sleep that most everyone takes for granted.

I must appologize for being on the aggresive.. Insomnia is the most frustrating thing in the world for me!
(As if it isn't obvious struggling to sleep makes me rather grouchy)
I just get very upset because the incontinence itself isn't as disruptive to my life as the sleep loss is. Those who are familiar with my problems refuse to understand this and I've even been told I need to get my priorities straight! Way to be apathetic...

I didn't mean to attack like that..
Shoe on the other foot and all..

Again, sorry.

There is no need to apologize! I understand the frustrations in dealing with incontinence on a daily basis. I totally agree with you that people who aren't dealing with incontinence have no clue what we, notice I said "We" have to try to cope with. The frustration, the embarassment, the aggravation, and in some cases, the total lack of understanding not only from the general public but sometimes also from our families and friends. As i stated in my previous post, my preference is to attempt to maintain what bladder control I still have left. If that means getting up once, twice or even three times to go to the bathroom instead of just going in a diaper, that is my preference. I have no problem with what anyone else does as each of us are individuals and we have to do what we have to do. Thanks for your reply and i'm glad we cleared the air on this matter

I'm 53 and have to wear diapers over night time as I occasionally wet myself - more and more frequently over time. I agree that it is more convenient to stay in bed and wet my diapers while half asleep than having to get up and go to the toilet with no guarantee that I'll make it.

Although I have been in diapers for a number of years, I wont admit to how many! I have urge incontinence of bladder and bowels. After trying for the toilet when I think I can and not making it, and after wetting or messing minutes or less after realizing the need to go, I have taken the so called "lazy" route. And no, it is not lazy at all. I finally feel that I am in control of my body. Instead of panicing or trying to get away, I just stand there, or stay in bed, and do it. No more panic, no more tension. Although I have made it to the toilet in time when I get enough advance worning, like a major cramp high in my intestinal tract or a tummy ache, I usually just go in my diaper then go change, confident that, at least most of the time, no one knows what has happened. No, it is not wonderful to wet or mess in my diaper, but it happens. This is how I handle it and I feel in control and confident. Just do what is comfortable for you and please don't find fault with or demean anyone who does otherwise.

I am a very deep sleeper and wet nearly every night, but on rare occasions I do wake up when I need to pee. I can go to the bathroom and work my penis out through the leg opening without undoing any pins or tapes, use the toilet and go back to sleep. That usually results in a diaper that can be used another night before washing or throwing it away. Fortunately I don’t suffer from insomnia and have no trouble getting back to sleep after a brief trip to the bathroom.

But I am not critical of those of you that don’t bother getting up. I know very well what it’s like to make it through a day of work with very little sleep, and that many of you have daytime incontinence and may not make it to the bathroom anyway. If I’m already wet when I wake up and need to go I do the same thing, just go in the diaper and go back to sleep; but I do enjoy the few mornings that I don’t have to deal with a wet diaper as soon as I get up.

I used to stress a lot about "making it in time". I have been both urinary and bowel incontinent since birth (very little control). While growing up with this problem, my doctor told me if I was wearing a diaper I should use it rather than racing around in vain. It certainly made a difference in my life to accept that fact.