Puffy,
I have had some success in removing the Conveen Optima condom by applying two separate coatings of skin prep to the penis and letting it completely dry before putting on the condom. That did let me remove the condom after 12 hours without undue discomfort.
However, my new monthly supply with 3 different condoms should arrive early next week. No more experiments until then. For ordinary daily use, I think I can get by with a condom with less adhesive, or at least with a weaker adhesive. Hopefully, one of the three new condoms will meet that requirement. That should help when I need to intermittent cath.
However, I also need to find a condom deliberately with more adhesive for long active outings during vacation on hot days. Think of long shore excursions in the Mediterranean or the Carribean with a fair amount of walking on level surfaces. They did not send this condom to me, but I believe one of the Rochester condoms has adhesive specifically formulated to resist perspiration. If that worked out reliably (and I emphasize "reliably"), it could allow me to participate in a shore trip lasting just a bit too long for a diaper to be practical and without private opportunity to change. I figure I can go into a stall and drain a leg bag faster and less obviously than I could change a diaper. Of course, this also is dependent upon my being confident in my managing my bowel incontinence long enough to feel comfortable with this.
It's all about risk management!
--John