Also, what im wondering is..if what you mean by using my pelvic muscles is pusing to start the urine flow, or clenching to stop yourself from wetting.. if its the clenching..do you find that it actually causes urine to spurt out? you mention minor spots and going to the bathroom often.. do you find that you have a postvoid spurt after you go to the bathroom?
if it is OAB.. well, theres not a whole lot that can wipe out the problem with 100% guarantee. Drugs help some people, but not all.
But, all in all..you have to ask yourself... if i did wear protection, would my life be better without running to the restroom all the time? could it give me more time to enjoy life? Also, are you emotionally distant and isolated because of your condtion, or is that just your personality? I tend to be a recluse sometimes because of the PDD-NOS..im just not comfortable in every social situation.
I don't mean to be a promoter of diapers here, but the fact is.. they seem to be a good solution for many people. You should exhaust every treatment option with your urologist, but while you are looking for a cure, they can be a good management tool. It made a really big difference in my life when i accepted i need ted to wear protection. I didnt have spots on my underwear, or urine goind down my leg.. or wet pants from when i didnt make it.. life was good!
I echo this sentiment:
johnstone wrote:I agree with Joek. I would recommend you try some pull up type of protection. I know Abena, and Molicare make them in different absorbency so you should be able to find what your looking for online. However, if your situation gets worse over time don't let your incon problem take over your life.
Truer words were never spoken. At what cost do you avoid wearing protection? Lack of social contact? I for one got really tired of running to the bathroom only to be wet half the time before or after. Now that that is over with, im greatful. But i cannot tell you how reluctant i was to start wearing proper protection.. Schoppy and Macdan can attest to that.. I was leery..i didnt want to admit i had a probem. But once i got adequately protected..LIFE was soo much better. My outlook was changed. A lot of stress was off my back. The motto i adopted was this: the bladder is like any other part of the body. It can go wrong; when it does diapers can be necessary. Its just another form of underwear, one that happens to be disposable. And i did NOT give in to just peeing in the diaper all the time.. i had other people telling me to do that.. and i tried to talk myself into doing that when things got bad.. but i held off. I am living proof that having a diaper on your backside for 24/7 doesnt necesarily mean that you have to lose what control you have.
anyway..i hope this helps..we're here if you need us
Peace out!
Rob