www.incontinentsupport.org

Also, what im wondering is..if what you mean by using my pelvic muscles is pusing to start the urine flow, or clenching to stop yourself from wetting.. if its the clenching..do you find that it actually causes urine to spurt out? you mention minor spots and going to the bathroom often.. do you find that you have a postvoid spurt after you go to the bathroom?

if it is OAB.. well, theres not a whole lot that can wipe out the problem with 100% guarantee. Drugs help some people, but not all.

But, all in all..you have to ask yourself... if i did wear protection, would my life be better without running to the restroom all the time? could it give me more time to enjoy life? Also, are you emotionally distant and isolated because of your condtion, or is that just your personality? I tend to be a recluse sometimes because of the PDD-NOS..im just not comfortable in every social situation.

I don't mean to be a promoter of diapers here, but the fact is.. they seem to be a good solution for many people. You should exhaust every treatment option with your urologist, but while you are looking for a cure, they can be a good management tool. It made a really big difference in my life when i accepted i need ted to wear protection. I didnt have spots on my underwear, or urine goind down my leg.. or wet pants from when i didnt make it.. life was good!
I echo this sentiment:

Truer words were never spoken. At what cost do you avoid wearing protection? Lack of social contact? I for one got really tired of running to the bathroom only to be wet half the time before or after. Now that that is over with, im greatful. But i cannot tell you how reluctant i was to start wearing proper protection.. Schoppy and Macdan can attest to that.. I was leery..i didnt want to admit i had a probem. But once i got adequately protected..LIFE was soo much better. My outlook was changed. A lot of stress was off my back. The motto i adopted was this: the bladder is like any other part of the body. It can go wrong; when it does diapers can be necessary. Its just another form of underwear, one that happens to be disposable. And i did NOT give in to just peeing in the diaper all the time.. i had other people telling me to do that.. and i tried to talk myself into doing that when things got bad.. but i held off. I am living proof that having a diaper on your backside for 24/7 doesnt necesarily mean that you have to lose what control you have.

anyway..i hope this helps..we're here if you need us

Peace out!

Rob

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Thanks, Rob!

Great to see you do still "drop by" once in a while and a great post for JIMO40. Thank you for taking the time to help one of our newer members struggling with this leaking thing we call incontinence!

Hope all is continuing to go well for you!

JoeK

Thanks everyone for your replies to my posts and I am sorry I cant post more often.

I know I probably should wear some protection but as I said I am very headstrong and think if I was wearing a diaper I would give in to the strong urges rather than fighting them with my pelvic floor muscles and mind control.

Two things that often work for me is if I can manage to shake my pelvis and tighten my pelvic muscles with all my energy and strength and have total belief without any doubt the urge will pass and I will feel great that I was able to control my bladder .other times when I try this I will fail miserably and wet my self then feel bad about my failure

the other thing that sometimes works is if I can think of a person that loves and cares about me while I am fighting the urges and remind my self that normal people must some times have very full bladders and even if there is no toilet they can hold off for a long time , if I can manage mind control while fighting the urges they usually stop.

the problem with these techniques is that it is not always possible to do them in time , that's when I fail ,also in desperation if I am on my own say in my car I sometimes hold my penis until the urges stops which I know is probably bad for you but at least I am not covered in urine.

I think half my problem seems psychological or am I just fooling my self and avoiding the fact that I will never have normal bladder control .

Has anyone else on this forum ever regained control with pelvic muscles and bladder training or is it just wishful thinking

Jim