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Hi Padded53
Thank you for your post. I’m relieved that I didn’t offend you and I hope that I didn’t make anyone here uncomfortable.
I will buy some color to try, soon.
Thank you.

When I was hospitalized for depression in the summer of 2016, my bladder thankfully behaved itself and diapers proved unnecessary. That being said, I NEVER have gone without protection until I've been dry for months. Anyway, during my processing, they had me strip and noticed my diaper. Later on, I had 2 nurses come to my room, pull up in hand... not only did they bring a pull up, but also asked me whether I was wearing them because I need them, or because I liked them.. I guess they have had more than a few patients that wore for fun?!?! Anyway, I asked them for tabbed briefs, and they gave me Attends classic.. way better than what medicaid was giving me at the time. Eventually my mom brought me my own supply of Abena. They were very cool about the whole thing, never laughing at me. But the fact they implied I wanted to wear was a bit annoying. Who in their right mind chooses this? Another story.. I used to substitute teach/work as a substitute para. I was working an assignment where i was a long term recess monitor. I was wearing a Tena product at the time.. Tena flex fit or something similar. Anyway, I didn't wear a body stocking because i felt I Didn't need it because of the way the diaper was trim and didn't ride in the back. I was wrong.. it showed..and a student saw it commented on it.. and i just said that's none of your business. But that's not the only time it was noticed by students. A student in a self contained classroom commented on it.. these were students with emotional challenges who are known for their lack of decorum. And then I had a student come up to me during a long term para assignment and say people are saying you wear a diaper. Not sure how anyone picked up on it, other than i was wearing pocket diapers at the time, which tend to bulge slightly. I asked him who, and he was vauge. I just shrugged it off. Other than those incidences, I haven't recalled anyone commenting on the diapers. But here's some funny stories. When I lived in an apartment complex, I ordered diapers from different companies. One of them packaged products in a coffe box of all things.. so when my fellow tenants saw this they are like ooh coffee are you gonna make me some? LOL. Then later they said hey wheres my coffee.. etc.. Anotehr time i pick up a package and they said hey I want one.. i just let it hang tehre and she said.. oh probably not what you got eh. i said yeah probably not or something like that. That lady had no clue that she was really saying she wanted adult diapers!! LOL. When I was working at a special needs camp, I would have regular deliveries sent to me of diapers. One time, one of the office staff commented to the effect of, hey are you moving in? LOL.

By the way, Sandy, its really good to see you posting again! In case you don't know my incontinence returned in 2014 and has persisted despite my best efforts to treat it. I thought I had beaten it for 4 years but God must have a wicked sense of humor.

A hearty welcome to any and all new members reading this thread. You're not alone, and we are here to help.

Peace out!

Rob

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I like the idea with the fashion too, but I don't think that ABDL's and people suffering from incontinence shareing the same needs.

The point is, that despite of the babyish style from the fetish products the credo seems to be "the thicker the better". There might be a need in some cases for the most absorbent 4l diaper - but I think there'r most likely a couple of other products like catheters that may work better in such a case.

I think most of us are propably interested in discrete and easy to use products. The ABDL community often prefer exactly the opposite of this.

I'm absolutely with you if it comes to the style of normal diapers and pads because at last I feel that they are looking pretty poor what reminds me more to hospitals and rest homes. If I see products like e.g. Tena Men active pants (blue or black) which looks more like normal underwear I think sometimes why not bring in more style and color into these products. That may help at last to feel a bit better while using them.
On the other hand - at last for me I can say it matters little, because I got my supplies on prescription and the insurance would never pay for some "extra fancy" designs if there's no medical need.

But anyway - it's interesting to see how many people using online shops to get there supplies. I think compared to the total turnover from normal incontinence products the fetish marked might be 1%. But in fact, for the shops the fetish community isn't most likely a niche marked, because at last in Europe the majority of incontinent people get there support from the public health system and they are not customers of this shops. So if it comes to the customer mix maybe not 1 % but 20% or 30% of there costumers are recruited from the fetish community and that way many of them changed there marketing strategy. Even 1% of the total marked of incontinence products is big enough to come up with some specials for the fetish community

I'm not sure if this is good or bad - but the effect is, that incontinence as well as fetish comes more visible in the society. If this also means also that there will be more acceptance for both the time will show...

Many years ago, around 2006, I was hospitalized because I was suicidal as a result of wrong medication.
After a few days, with no improvement in my condition, they discharged me.
During the discharging conversation, the doctor started harrassing me because of my diapers,
accusing me to use them to get attention.
It was so humiliating. That nasty feeling is there still...

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I am incontinent due to a rare nerve disease. It effects most of the involuntary functions of my body. My doctors told me I’m lucky to be alive. Most of the time, I walk with assistive devices. I lack most of my ability to sweat so heat related illness is very dangerous to me. I recently switched to cloth prefolds from angelfluff diapers. I used to wear plastic backed Abenas but they weren’t absorbent enough. I am between sizes and had difficulty finding something that fit without leaking. I’ll have to say the prefolds are far more comfortable. They are bulkier though. Due to the nature of my incontinence issues, I wear medium-heavyweight capacity with a trifolded flat diaper as a soaker strip and plastic pants. Yes, I know they are bulky but I do what I must. I try to change at home instead of out running errands. This combination works for me. Because I don’t sweat, I wear shorts when temperatures start going up. I try to buy dry fit clothes that are one size up. I’m under no illusion that if you look hard enough, one could probably tell what I have on under my clothing. I try to be inconspicuous. I plan on investing in some concealer (onesie) type shirts. Maybe that will help compress things. Not sure. I have been incontinent for over 10 years. I’ve learned many tricks to adapt. I used to be very concerned about how I look. My body is tired. Now I just carry on. If people do notice, no one has ever said anything to me. The only rude comment I’ve ever received was actually from a resident (Med student) doctor. I corrected the issue real quick. I have enough problems and no time to deal with that. I think he thought I was of the other crowd. I just do the best I can.