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w, i have so much to say in response. i don't know where to begin only to let you know emphatically that i do appreciate and treat my family well. if i can say more, i will, but it will take time. the areas where i seem to not take advice and not compromise are also areas where i have a better answer than how it seems. but if you also think i may be full of excuses etc, maybe i am. again, explaining myself will take time. i hope i have the opportunity to communicate with you again.

Gee,
This group is still ready to help, Im totally bladder I/C and live with extreme pain issues which make it hard to walk or do anything for that matter. Like I have told many folks, give it time you can and will adjust. Try not to make bold discussion other than I will move forward !!

sorry, i am just so distressed beyond the limits of the affliction mentioned here. where can bold discussion take place?

Gee,
Bold decision, and not discussion. Spell check got me and I sorry if it hurt your feelings. Im here to help not hurt.

i guess i need to tell you that i'm not hurt and wasn't. i just thought briefly that i was committing rules violations and didn't understand. being corrected by spellcheck into saying what i did not have in mind is an often funny thing. i'm ok.

but as for my condition. i am afraid of how things are now and i'm afraid of myself. there are things i feel i just can't do. fortunately, i feel as though my handling my incontinence problems are the best they can be for me in my present situation. i don't know how to make it better and i know that it is now much better than it was. like not being able to wear so many layers or taking enemas, i also have not considered surgery. a doctor once told me that there was something like a 20 percent success rate which to me makes it not really worth while. but i wonder about that. i'm typing in the dark so rather than correct i'll just say i meant 30 percent. (hey, i got it right). i also wonder about deodorants. i tried a couple but feel the smell they have makes everything worse. just hoping for other people's thoughts and suggestions on these things and more. and i don't know who reads this and my other comments but hopefully everyone important reads this: thanks.

I'm not important, but I can tell you that I have been bit by the Spell Check bug as well. I think many of us have, and it can lead to some humorous moments. Just smile and go with it. Life is too short to worry about such trivialities.

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Gee, I can tell you there is NOTHING I can't do while wearing a diaper that I couldn't do before I became incontinent (well, not because of the incontinence any ways). While I am only UI, I do work in an office and nobody has ever even noticed. Use the Enemas, Nullo and a good diaper cover like the others have said and you should be just fine too.

Yes, a well fitted diaper should fit like a diaper and not like underwear. Yes they will extend up over your normal waistband line (hips), and up to your actual waist line (belly button). This is how they are supposed to fit, which will also help the diaper to contain everything much better.

You just need to experiment and find the right combination that will work for your body. Once you get that, and a few months of using diapers in an office, you will get that confidence you are looking for. Unfortunately it takes time, so try to stay calm over it all for now.

As for the 30% chance of a surgery being successful. I personally would not do it unless there is also a 90% plus chance that nothing could go wrong or get worse because of the surgery. But this is the exact same as saying there is a 70% chance it WILL go wrong- no way! I probably wouldn't even consider a surgery unless I had at least a 60% chance of success. That's just me though.

Thanks JD, I needed to hear that today too.....

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