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Thanks everyone. Your advice from the posts has been helpful. Guess I am not the only one out here. Still lacking support from my wife, but am working through it. I now wear protection all of the time when out. Even if I do not need it, protection provides confidence. Strangely have found that a good friend of mine is affected by this too. He brought it up. He said he had suspected this of me for some time and wanted to discuss it with me. He said he was reluctant to bring it up. Asked him how he suspected it of me and he just said he had noticed sighs of it that he recognized from him self. It is good to have this support. Thanks again.

AW,

Glad to hear you have found some support with a friend.

AW,
Its good to hear you now have a good friend. Wear your protection and get your life back.

Add my congratulations and good wishes to those above. When you get the opportunity, ask your friend to join our group. We need and welcome all the insight we can get.

Will suggest this group to my friend.

Great to hear that you and your friend have something else in common, but sad to her your wife is not supportive 100% yet, it may just take some time to see this happens to people, and they need support more then criticism or the like... Yes, for someone else that has plumbing issues, the things we do to deal with it like more frequent bathroom trips, avoiding travel out or movies, do certainly stand out to others that also suffer, no surprise that he/she picked up on it and can now talk about it and help you out, or vice versa... Puffy

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Puffy
BC, Canada
Fighting the "Bladder Battle" since 1995

I'm sorry to hear your wife is still unsupportive. However, her acceptance doesn't matter as much as your own. The confidence gained from adequate protection is incredibly important. It is also good you found a friend that has similar issues. I wish we were all so lucky!

Thanks again to everyone. Yes it is good to find a supportive friend. I was reluctant to discuss it with him at first. He encouraged the discussion with me. Have had a few discussions with him. He is lucky in one respect that he has a supportive wife. He credits his wife with getting him to make the decision to wear protection all the time. He says she she was never judgmental but, in a supportive way, pointed out the problems having to react to emergencies and accidents. As a way of support I found it interesting that when they are out together, she carries extra protection in her over-sized purse. She discretely slips it to him when he needs to change.

As far as my wife is concerned, I could live better with lack of support rather than what I would call negative response to the situation. It must be in her DNA. Interestingly I remember when our daughter was a toddler, she pushed toilet training on her at a young age and had problems with daughter's accidents to much to high a degree. Not sure if any if this is related, but just mentioning it.

Thanks again everyone.

Hopefully your wife will see that you are handling the situation, respect the positive changes that brings and come around. Glad you have a supportive friend though! I'm lucky, my wife knows and is supportive AND I have an incontinent friend who offers me real world advice on the subject. I even invited her to join ISC, but she is busy being a mom so declined for the moment. I'll keep on her until she joins! Evil are my ways, strong is my will.

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