Cough Cough,
I'm with Baby Brian on this - I use Dry 24/7 and don't leak or feel wet until the diaper (nappy) is at its considerable capacity. They cost more but last longer. Well worth the price. Remember, many of us order diapers from medical supply houses by the case. By so doing we get a substantial reduction in cost which helps us to purchase premium diapers.
As far as diapers (nappy's) looking like a nappy, it may sound harsh, but you need to get past that. It is a problem of style versus function. A good tabbed nappy is the most efficient form of absorbent product to eliminate leaks when worn properly.

Plastic-backed nappys stretch less and contain odor better.
--John