Hello Tim, and Welcome!
Sorry to hear about your problems. You definitely are in the right place and among friends who share your problem and understand. The group here is very experienced and extremely helpful. Different from other forums, you will find that the people here can offer specific and very useful suggestions rather than just emotional support. However, we all also offer (and need) emotional support.
I'm double incontinent and wear diapers 24/7. At times, instead I wear an external catheter (condom catheter).
To start off, I recommend that you check out two very useful resources in the Articles section right here on this site. First there is the excellent and detailed New Diaper Primer at the following link -
http://www.incontinentsupport.org/primer_index.phpSecondly, I recommend my own briefer work "An Introduction to Adult Diapers: Their Selection and Wear," at the following link -
http://www.incontinentsupport.org/Intro ... iapers.pdf It also is very helpful to browse through the past messages in the archive. Use the search function to search for particular words of interest. When my incontinence first became more severe, I found very useful information this way - and still do.
Again, welcome Tim. You will hear from many others here.
--John