www.incontinentsupport.org

Thanks John!


Also I don't get this whole "diaper that can handle multiple wettings" thing. I must pee a lot cause I haven't found one that can barely handle one!

Aside from night weight cloth diapers, nothing will handle multiple floods, or at least not the kind I have.

Justej, The problem with trying to help each other is that we all have different levels of incontinence. Let me try and explain. A person might say "I have multiple voids and diaper X handles it," but another person wearing the same diaper says it doesn't. It is not how many times you wet your diaper but how much you wet it. So what works for me dose not work for you simply because we are not having the same event. Yes, it is very frustrating. Another thing is that we struggle for years trying to use the smallest amount of protection. We worry more about noise or bulk than what the diaper is for. Until you accept that not only do you need to wear diapers but you need to wear diapers that will work, and they may not be easily hidden under clothes, or may make some sound or what ever. You have to put aside all the embarrassment of being diapered and go for being confident and dry regardless of all other things. We all also have a level of self that we have to correct. We make silly decisions such as "That diaper is too babyish!" And so we avoid it, "Too babyish?" They are ALL diapers and looks or colors or what ever does not make it more of a diaper or less of a diaper. So do not use the smallest protection and work up, wear the MOST protection and work down. Make it work for you and if you do you will be way more relaxed and secure in dealing with this. Papa

Justej: You would do well to heed Papa's sage advice! I struggled at the beginning of my incon journey. This was mostly due to trying to use as little diapering as possible. I even avoided the use of the word "diaper". Once I came to accept that a diaper is my tool for dealing with what my body can/can't do, then things became a bit smoother. I went for max protection and then dialed back to an acceptable level. I also found that what I thought were issues of "too noisy" or "too bulky and can be seen" were my overblown perceptions. Noise was drowned out by ambient sounds; and bulk was not a problem by sizing up my pants. No one knows. The few that have found out didn't make a big deal of it.

Regarding the tapes that "pop off later on" ... Once I started using compression pants or a diaper cover (like a Gary PUL), that stopped the tape issue.

Yes, the learning curves can be steep ... But either we learn from our experiences or we give up and stop living.

Hi Justej

Papa's is spot on I too felt embarrassed frustrated and ashamed at being incontinent and for years avoided wearing diapers and was a slave to the loo. I just became fed up and made inevitable decision to wear diapers and take control of my life. I like you had tape, wetting & cost issues and as others have said the health system only provides a base level. I eventually settled on the best diapers that suited my needs not the perceived needs that others thought I had. I sacrificed a few of my pleasures to fund the diapers I wear to fit my incontinence needs. I was nervous about going out in public but need not have been I read the various posts given here and helped me a lot with the public issues/fears that I had. I too wear compression, terry pants/briefs or a diaper cover and have not looked back. I have been wearing diapers 24/7 for over a year now and for the first time in decades I am back in control of my life and can go places I never would have before and my confidence is slowly returning.

The people here and advice found on the below page are truly fantastic places to gain advice support and I would not be able to cope without you all.

http://www.incontinentsupport.org/primer_index.php

Take care Justej you are not alone with your frustration.

Greenbank