Hey all, I am in the group that calls it an absorbant product. I really don't like to admit I use a diaper to accomplish leaving the house for any length of time, but that is exactly what it is. To me, I have accepted that, but if I had to discuss it with anyone else which really has not occurred with me yet besides the home health care nurse who I confided in and get my supplies form, I have a real hard time calling it a diaper. Even with my doctor, all I told him was I had switched over to disposable absorbant products, never said the D work, but there is not too many dispobable products for urinary control that are not in the diaper classification. I think the stigma attached to having to use a diaper at the "in between" point in life, that being - not a baby, and not elderly (75 +) where you could expect to see it being needed is extremely difficult for almost all of us to accept, I still struggle with it now and then as well, never seems to just be totally resolved and never brought up in my mind again, probably never will.
Society has certainly done a number on peoples minds, that is for sure. How else would you expect to deal with a problem like this, stick a cork in it?
Sorry, but that won't work, and would most likely hurt like hell, a diaper is the logical way to manage it, is effective, and looked after properly is fairly clean if you change fairly frequently. Some sort of collection device is going to be needed if you have waterwork/plumbing/bowel problems, but society has the mentality that it does not happen unless you are under 2 or over 75 or whatever age they figure you would start to lose control of bodily functions. Sorry to break it to you world, but this effects ALL ages, and is not gender/age specific like you all figure it is... you my friends have fallen into the brainwashed catagory if you think this does not happen to the teen/middle aged or just about to be a senior age groups. Walk 1 day in my shoes, that is all I can think when someone has a problem with adult diapers... I remark to them, without telling then in any certain terms I use them on a daily basis, it is only humorous until it happens to you... and once it has, life is not the same as you once knew it. I have gotten a few raised eyebrows, but have never gone any further into the conversation, I just leave it at that. Never been approached on the subject after making that remark, could care less if I was. It is not like any of us asked for this. It would not take them long after their first public wetting episode to change their tune, and see that it is a miserable condition to have to deal with on a day to day basis, and we do what we need to do to be able to have a decent quality of life without becoming a housebound recluse who is in fear of leaving the front door because of the inevitable. All a diaper does is hide the inevitable from the publics eyes, annd allows the user to be able to function in situations where he/she could not before... Simple as that, nothing more, nothing less. Thanks for listening... rant off ! 
Puffy