Paul Henry[/
First I´d like to send all my best wishes for a quick recovery to Paul. And hope everything goes as good as possible, lots of courage dude!
Myself haven´t posted very much lately nor read either, but now that the holidays approach I profit this alarged weekend in Marseille France to be updated and gladly answer to this question. Although I agree with most of the opinions (or facts) exposed in the precedent posts (the low participation, the rich content of the archives, etc) about the guys with fetish Ive got an encountered experience. Indeed, there´s those capable to manipulate patients with a medical issue in webs with those purposes to their own sexual satisfaction, ruining websites in the way, whom I despise deeply. But I believe they ain´t the majority, and that these are more or less normal educated people with empathy and respect. And i say this because I do like a site called www.adisc.org in which everything is separated and any unappropiate posts (or profiles) inmediately banned, where in your profile you say if you are IC, fetish, carer, simple visitor etc. and works well because I think they have normally a good knowledge of products, and can exist a profitable dialogue, enriching for incontinents ( it is for me at least
). Even there are ic people which were fetish before (what happened to them after becoming it, there´s some interesting opinions about IMHO). To me these are the 2 sites I participate more or less often, there some one left, as nafc. org for example, but from time to time.So that´s my point of view, about adisc I can understand some people can´t forgive persons having sexual joy about something so serious and that made us suffer very much and most people is unable to imagine even a second what means to us, but if you are open minded I believe it can help. I think a fetish is not volontary as isnt to be hetero or homo or asexual. But while you empathize enough to know that any sexual behaviour towards another one without the consent (and knowledge course) is completely unacceptable, like any other sexual abuse. But the majority understands that (I think) even the enormous kinds of paraphlic species.
Anyway I repeat that I m an IC patient due to spinal injuries, and understand 100% some people don´t wanna even hear about it, and have to be open minded. But to me it works to them too (its more than 10 years i believe) and by the way makes retain a veeery tiny faith on human mankind and a better world is really possible. Hoping it´s useful for somebody or interesting at least, I send my best regards to everybody from my french lunday 
cheers!