Friend's husband is scheduled for prostatectomy next week.

[bcca]

Don is doing well. He is back to volunteering
His surgeon can't see him for several months. He only saw him for one postop visit. I guess that's what you get with a famous surgeon

Somehow it's hard for me to read this paragraph and not feel basically reassured. I know it's also frustrating. But it does feel good to know he got the best.

I've told him that there are other products to try

Maybe you've already thought of this, but the simplest and easiest "product" might not be a product at all, just... black-colored pants, that wouldn't show being wet?

If the pads he has are "mostly" working for him and it's just that sometimes they might not quite contain everything, or some gets around the edges here and there... then it sounds like it might be less "puddle" and more just "dampness"?

[dianesw]

Thanks for all the kind words and support.
I told Don that things like this take time. Patience can be the best medicine.
He thought he would be completely back to what he was like before surgery and thats not the case.
I don't think his symptoms are too different than what many other men experience.
He would get more reassurance if his surgeon would see him.
thanks everyone!