I’m starting this topic as a way of working my way out of depression, so please be patient with me. Every now and then, something will spark and I’ll be overcome with sad memories of my childhood, which I try oh so hard to forget. My mother was (is) a harsh and very stern woman that I swear found some kind of twisted joy in making me miserable! My sister could do no wrong… I was never completely potty trained as a young child, which infuriated my mother. I wet the bed, wet my clothes, wet even after going to the bathroom. My mom called me lazy, stubborn, “mentally off” (her favorite expression). I would wet in elementary school, middle school, and yes, high school. I was -punished- by being put “back in diapers like a baby”, he words I diminish me…. I was taken to several doctors over my young years, who couldn’t find a medical reason for my wetting. “Oh, she’ll grow out of it” they said. Beatings, severe demoralizing ridicule, teasing by family and my childhood “friends”….. Get the picture? I’m NOT looking for sympathy! Just shedding tears tonight. I was made to wear diapers in elementary school, and my mother was forced to come to school daily and change me at lunch. The school finally forced me to wear pads and change myself as diapers was too much of a distraction, with the TEASING and all…. It was that or home school, which my mother wanted no part of. After school and weekends, I was made to wear a diaper and top and “play” outside. Yeah, right. I did have a very few friends who I guess felt sorry for me. They remain my close friends today. Not sleep overs. No parties, no good childhood memories. Things relaxed as I became 7 or 8 in that I was able to change myself and wearing more pads and such during the day but my mother made sure I was in thick cloth diapers at night. It’s almost funny in that I prefer cloth diapers to anything today. I would have thought I’d be completely sick of them but wearing a cloth diaper was (is) always leak free, comfortable, and my “safe zone”. If I was in a cloth diaper, I was generally left alone as a child, though shunned is likely more accurate. I reached puberty and FINALLY a doctor suspected a deformity, which in a way, I privately celebrated! I was FINALLY treated as “physically broken” instead of mentally ill, stubborn, lazy, …. You couldn’t imagine the load off me! Then came the battery of tests, drugs, and my take of experimental surgical procedures, which as a minor was a battle to avoid. I ran away from home once to avoid it. When I was old enough to leave home, I JUMPED at it and didn’t look back. One advantage of no friends or social life is that you study - a lot. I achieved high grades and won a full scholarship at a university far enough away from home that I didn’t carry my baggage with me. I often wonder if there’s others here that has a life long incontinence issue and if you can relate? God, I sincerely hope not!!
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