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A short story introduction

Tue Feb 09, 2021 12:23 pm

Finally making an introduction. I would first like to thank the moderators for this wonderful site, and I would like also to thank all the contributors. If you will allow , I would like to tell you a little of my journey that has brought us together.

Almost three years ago March 22 2018 I had a near fatal workplace accident on my employer's personal residential property. I fell 20 feet while cutting a very very large tree limb. My right pelvis was completely shattered, ribs were broken, lung punctured and collapsed. Multiple trauma's and internal injuries too numerous to mention here. I was transported to a local hospital and then to a trauma center in Toronto. I had to be sedated, intubated, ventilated, pelvic binder eventually in traction, chest tube inserted, transfused ,and resuscitated multiple times and then placed in a coma for five days. I am truly blessed to be alive to day. I was actually and eventually able to return to work seven months later on modified duty.

As far as the incontinence issues, I was already having some night time issues and minor day time issues, enough that I was always dressed in the "just in case" mode. The day of the fall I was wearing a pull up booster and cover pants. In hospital I was catheterized and then diapered in the recovery ward, I could not walk at the time. I was in hospital for seven weeks and eventually got back the urinary control almost the same as before the accident and wore again " just in case" still having occasional issues at night and day.

Then March 3 2020 my car was rear ended while I was stopped at a red light. This hit totally crumpled the rear of the car which became a write off. I was immediately in pain in my , neck, back, arms, shoulders and of course my pelvis and my knee. I was in shock and totally re-traumatized . Even now as I write this I am in constant unrelenting daily pain. I am taking multiple medications and I have been prescribed hydromorphone for when it becomes too severe. The post trauma effects, lack of sleep irritability, depression and multiple anxiety disorders, fatigue and mobility issues are truly a real trial. Since the March 3rd car accident my incontinence has become extreme and severe, both night and day. I am now diapered twenty four hours a day seven days a week. Unlike before I will not be able to return to work as I know it , even daily living is extremely compromised and difficult. I am grateful for the support of my loving wife of 45 years my family and close friends, it has meant the world.

I have spent a lot of time on your site as a guest and my occupational therapist has helped me to be more open about my new embarrassing reality and learning that life is more than about the aides we need to live it. I am undergoing multiple tests MRI's , scans, evaluations, psychiatric assessment to come, physical exams, x-rays, ultra-sounds to try and figure out the best therapy.
Sorry for the long story , I thought it would provide some context as to why I joined.

Thank you again, your experiences have helped and encouraged me in that I feel I am not alone in this journey, and I truly feel like this is a safe place to be and to share. Again a big thank you to the Moderators and the Administrators and to all of you contributors. God Bless you all.
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Re: A short story introduction

Tue Feb 09, 2021 2:38 pm

Welcome aboard Paul and thank-you for sharing. I just joined myself in January. What a journey you've had! One of my in-law's father died in the same type of tree accident many years ago (there's a lesson for others there!) So I think you're blessed to be alive and certainly not alone in incontinence.

I'll also express my thanks to the moderators and those keeping this site running. Having discovered that diabetes is making me incontinent in December 2020, I would have been totally lost without this resource (nothing prepares you for this type of thing). Having a site dedicated to incontinence has proven useful to many as far as I can tell. Knowing that others are in a situation similar to your own is a big help.

So don't be shy about joining in the forums.

Re: A short story introduction

Tue Feb 09, 2021 4:31 pm

Add my welcome. Your account makes me amazed at your courage and survival despite such difficult challenges. I look forward to reading your insights in future posts.

Re: A short story introduction

Tue Feb 09, 2021 7:50 pm

Glad you found the site. there is a lot of information buried in the forums along with on the front page.
This is a great place to come to vent and ask for advice. From my experience when I vented someone else has had the same thing happen and told me how they got through it.

Re: A short story introduction

Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:21 pm

Man! You've had a road. Glad your healing, and found a good place to share the difficulty you've had with IC.

Totally agree with you on how great it is to have a place to reach out to others about this crap. I'm a new member as well. My body more recently has started failing me in a dramatic way. Still trying to figure out what is exactly causing it, but soon enough. What's great is instead of trying to compartmentalize all of the daily humiliation we can go on here and share with each other.

Glad you're here. Thanks for sharing your story.

Re: A short story introduction

Wed Feb 10, 2021 5:18 pm

Thank You so much everyone for the warm welcome. Wayne I am so sorry for your loss . My deepest condolences, my wife and daughter were in limbo for two days not knowing whether I would survive or not. My orthopedic surgeon said not many people do , I am humbled and grateful that I did ,certainly makes me cherish the important things, like family and friends. Thanks again for the warm welcome everyone.
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Re: A short story introduction

Wed Feb 10, 2021 7:34 pm

Welcome to this community. The members here are quite helpful and supportive.

Re: A short story introduction

Sun Mar 14, 2021 11:27 pm

A lot has happened the past couple of weeks since the examination which included cystoscopy, flow test and a transrectal ultra sound. The day of the procedure I was very nervous so nervous in fact that I did not sleep a wink the night before. I had a cup of coffee in the morning and I had drank two 500ml bottles of water before the exam. The strangest thing is I had the hardest time doing the flow test and it was unusually painful. The exam showed that I had an enlarged prostate. ( Benign prostatic hyperplasia) and there was trace blood in the urine sample. That news hit me like a ton of bricks ! It has taken some time to process this discovery.
The Doctor has prescribed Rapaflo silodosin and has sent me for a kidney ultra sound. I have another appointment at the end of the month to discuss results and other tests.

Last Monday I woke up with a headache and then by Mid afternoon I was freezing and violently shaking uncontrollably , My BP shot way up , and body temperature spiked at 103 F or 39.4 C . I asked my wife to drive me to Emergency. Five hours later after blood and urine samples and a great attending Doctor's care I find out I have a severe Prostate and or Urinary tract infection. I am now taking Sulfameth/Trimeth DS which seems to be working. I am grateful for the antibiotics , and every day there is improvement . I am so glad they caught this before it became any worse.

So: more investigation ,more specialists , more tests, more questions , more frustration and anxiety and lack of control until there is an acceptable reason found for what is happening to me. I am still processing all this , trying to accept all this new information. I have worked my entire life and my body has always worked for me and now it seems it is crying out for some help and attention. I am grateful for the great medical help I am receiving and the availability of information on any subject I may care to research. I am also grateful for my GP who I know and trust. Thanks for letting me vent a little , it has been a difficult week, and I know many of you have been down this path and understand. So thankyou again for your contributions.

Re: A short story introduction

Mon Mar 15, 2021 5:22 pm

Sounds like the UTI needs to be controlled first, as you're doing. Once that is out of the way, the rest can be carefully treated. Some of these things develop so slowly that our normal moves slowly with it until it reaches a crises point. And then we wonder how we got there!

Re: A short story introduction

Mon Mar 15, 2021 9:24 pm

Totally agree, I need to calm down and take it one step at a time and get some perspective; this may be a long journey before there are any real definitive answers. There is daily improvement in regards to the infection so the antibiotic is working. The rapaflo also seems to be relaxing the muscles so the flow is much better. I must drink a lot of water with these medications otherwise they will crystalize in my kidneys. The result is I am changing three and four times a day . This just seemed to come right out of the blue , I was very thankful that the hospital let me go home with just a prescription. I was so concerned that I packed a small bag just in case they decided to admit me.

I felt really sorry for my wife. Her father is in hospital in Toronto and had just been diagnosed with stage four cancer and now she was driving her husband to another hospital. I was doubly glad they released me that night so that I could render whatever help I could to her and her mom and dad.. Like I said this has been a rough and difficult week especially for my wife's dad.
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