Hey All,
I just thought I would share some slightly anxiety-reducing news. I finally mustered up the courage to talk to my wife about my worsening fecal incontinence. We were driving to dinner and I just flat out asked her if me discussing my incontinence problems with her made her uncomfortable at all? She pretty much instantly said “absolutely not!” and that she actually would prefer that I talk to her about things instead of feeling like I have to take things on alone. Since she was so open, I decided to tell her that in addition to my urinary incontinence (which she has known about since before we got married; going on 4 years now
) that I have also been dealing with increasing bowel accidents. To my relief, she just told me that she understands, she loves me, and she is there to help me however she can. She even playfully chastised me for trying to be quote “all cloak and dagger about things” and trying to hide my accidents and diapers from her all the time. The rational part of me knew that she would respond this way and be extremely supportive, but it still took me quite a while to break down that wall of embarrassment, shame, and anxiety in order to discuss things with her. She said that she never wants me to feel uncomfortable or embarrass me so she hadn’t said anything, but she assured me that I could always come to her, with anything. It was such a relief. It’s one less person that I have to feel anxious around while wearing my diapers and it gives me relief knowing I can discuss things with her without being all cryptic about it 
Lastly, I just wanted to thank you all for helping me get to a place where I could have this conversation with her. Reading everyone’s posts, advice, and encouragement to myself and others, really gave me the confidence I needed to ultimately have this conversation with her. Specifically I would like to thank @Mattwp, @Patrick, and @5bugles for their advice on my recent post and their encouragement to be open with my wife about things. You all were absolutely right and I appreciate your counsel! Very thankful to @Schoppy for this site and the awesome community we have here. I hope everyone has a great weekend!
Best,
Dallas
I know I have a little while to decide but I am still not looking forward to making that decision or if I choose to, having that conversation. It is as @realworldinc said above me, I keep thinking of how bad things could go 
Anyways, you all are great and I appreciate the encouragement and advice! I hope everyone has had a great weekend and is ready for another week.