You have been through the medical mill. I would say welcome, but you need and deserve more than that. My GI issue is different than yours, which may make my advice useless. But here goes anyway. I have gastroparesis; my GI system is partially paralyzed. I live on a rather strict diet, a list of medications, and suppositories and enemas. Have any of your doctors discussed your diet with you? High-fat foods, such as French fries, may be forbidden. Without competent medical advice, deciding what foods to avoid is like shooting in the dark. To deal with the incontinence, you might consider gradually developing an inventory of washable, cloth diapers and plastic pants. Good luck and keep us informed.

northshore has a great line of both pull ups and briefs or diapers what ever you want to call them they also are great about helping with guideing a person to what they need and sending out samples they have their own brand line i dont want to over step on this one but i think you should tell your wife about whats going on for one if you dont take a med that helps with the smell she will smell any accidents you have while you are out or even at home reason 2 if you ever needed clean up help she would know and you could have a plan for team work during any outings that you needed to leave in a hurry

Sorry to hear about all your issues @ dallasinc. It sounds like you have been run through the wringer, so to speak. In addition to my urinary incontinence, I have recently developed fecal incontinence (from once every few weeks to daily in a matter of a few months). Fortunately for me, it almost always happens first thing in the morning, so it doesn't usually affect my later-in-the-day activities.

As it appears this is something that you will be dealing with a while (if not forever) I would suggest confiding in your wife. Eventually, she will find out anyway, and maybe she will be very supportive and understanding, which will make it easier for you to deal with. While I don't share all the gory details with my wife, she does know that I have fecal incon issues and is very empathetic about it. I do try to be discrete when dealing with it, changing, cleaning up, etc, but don't try to hide the fact. You may be pleasantly surprised... I've found also that Nullo, while not completely removing the odor, does seem to reduce it and make clean up a little less "pungent." I usually wear a Crinklz with a cloth contour diaper over it and plastic pants to bed, so mornings are relatively odor free.

Have you tried the ConfiDry 24/7s yet? I am in the same boat as you, in that I'm between a M & L in most brands. The Dry 24/7 Medium is sized a bit larger than most - kind of midway between M & L and fits me well. I default to large NS Supremes or BetterDry/Crinklz for overnight and at times when discretion is not important to me, but like the Dry 24/7s when I want to be a little more discrete or am concerned about a more snug fit.

Hope this helps!

On really bad days, when my wife is home, she will assist me with my washing and changing and laundry. When she is unable to assist me, we hire a caregiver for a day or two. She agrees that a wet diaper is preferable to a wet bed, so there's no problem with that issue. She has seen me doubled over in pain, helpless to do anything for myself, and she has watched urologists and physical therapists work on me, so she understands what is needed. I hope your wife/partner is as understanding.