Like you, I used to try to base my protection on how I thought my bladder was going to act on any given day, but I soon realized the inconsistencies made it almost impossible to predict. This caused me great anxiety, as well, and after talking about it at length with my wife, we jointly made the decision to use diapers 24/7. We made the decision with the understanding that there would likely be no going back. It was the best decision I/we could have made in managing my situation while reducing my anxiety. I no longer worry about the possibility of getting a huge wet spot in public, or the almost panicked feeling of trying to find a restroom when that sudden overwhelming urge hits (and usually having an accident before I get there!). I can go about my daily life without worry, and remain just as active as I was before - just with a lot less anxiety.
Does it get frustrating at times? Yes, it does, but not often. It has become very routine for me at this point - pretty "normalized." To my knowledge, no one can tell I am wearing a diaper when I am out and about. Even a couple friends I have confided in say they can't tell, even though they know. At least in my case, the fears about wearing diapers have proven to be unfounded, and the reduced/eliminated anxiety has made it a great move for me. Good luck!
_________________ "When you die, on your deathbed, you will receive total consciousness. So I got that goin' for me, which is nice."
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