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I'm not at all embarrassed by the fact that I have to wear diapers 24/7 (for need due to BPH). However when it comes to actually changing my diaper in front of my (very supportive) wife it just plain embarrasses the heck out of me. I'm not sure why this is because I don't have any problem wearing diapers and plastic pants in front of her, changing in public restrooms, or other places. In addition I'm not afraid that others will find out I need to wear protection, however I certainly don't advertise the fact, ever! The only reason I can come up with is that I feel like the whole diapering process is just sort of, well, awkward looking. Does anyone else have the same feelings?

I use to be the same way i would ether wait for her to go to bed before me, and I would wait till she was asleep to shower and then get changed for bed or i would get into bed before her. fast fwd 10 years and she will tell me it time to get up and begin throwing clothes, diapers at me tell me to get moving LOL so no embarrassment any more

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Although this does not embarrass me, I do work hard to minimize the impact of my incontinence on my family. Washing and changing can make me use so much time in the bathroom that, if I'm inconsiderate,, it can frustrate others who need to use it. I have had family and assorted caregivers, not to mention medical professionals, see me naked so often that I must work hard to try to remember when this embarrassed me.

Great point Patrick, I too really try to minimize the "impact" (visually and otherwise) of my incontinence on my family so that might just be the basis of my "embarrassment". Thanks for the great reply!

same for me. she knows I'm wearing, I know I'm wearing but changing around her humiliates me, even though she is super supportive and assures me she doesn't care.

I rarely change in front of her, but I find the best fit I get with a diaper is if I put it on in the position I'll be wearing it. For example, putting my bedtime diaper on while laying in bed rather than standing in the bathroom. And the opposite, a diaper I know I'll be wearing standing or sitting fits best if I put it on standing...not sure why really...but anyway that leads me to always want to put my night time diaper on in bed and so i try to get upstairs before her to do it while she's in the bathroom. Sometimes though I end up needing to do it with her laying right next to me and I hate it.

That's pretty much the only time I need to diaper up right in front of her though.

Because I leak continually, changing in bed is pretty much limited to those times when I have needed caregiver assistance. Otherwise, I try to change myself in the bathroom as often as I can.

I don't mind changing in front of the wife, I am very discreet with the kids and don't show myself off to them. (2 boys 7 1/2 and almost 6) they know what's going on but I don't like to flaunt it around the house. Wife has been mostly supportive of my incontinence issues, she is an ER nurse and deals with all of that kind of stuff at work. She will occasionally help me with my night time diaper change just to be nice and show support. She still puts my Foley's in when I need them, since I'm not sure I could do it myself, it makes me queasy and does need to be done as a sterile procedure. She does them all the time at work (and now at home )she is quick, efficient, and mostly pain free, when she does it. I'm grateful to have married a nurse.

LOL the kids that is the fun part LOL i got good leaning against the door to keep them out when i needed to change. I have a son who has mild autism so his social skills and since of privacy was greatly lacking for a long time. we get got good at using code work like i need to stop by and the head, or bath room i need to stop for a sode LOL never use the word change until the kids were much older

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And I thought I was the ONLY one, thanks for reply MikeJames, et al.

For the longest time, I wouldn't even let my wife carry my bag with my stuff in it or see my diapers. Fast forward I'm ok with her doing that now. She also helps by letting me know when my diapers are showing and with ideas on how to conceal them. It gets tough when being in a hotel room where it is difficult to give some distance between the room and bathroom where the noises can be heard. I still will not change in front of her though.