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I had someone I know (not a good friend) over to help me clean since I can't cause of surgery.
He left and I went into my bedroom to sleep/mess around online/hang out with the cat and a package of diapers were sitting next to my bed. And I didn't put them there. They were under some bags that I didn't think he'd touch but I was wrong.
Sigh.

Also he sucks at cleaning.

EJ,

Sorry to hear what happen. this is embarrassing since you didn't think he would snoop. On a lighter side and possible a thought is, as he was helping clean he saw them and felt you may have needed them close to your bed vice where they were, but didn't know how to approach you about it. Maybe? Just a thought. Just remember what is done is done and that can't be changed. It is how you move on from there. I know it is easier said than done, as I too have to repeat to myself that saying. Hope you get to feeling better soon.

And here I though you were going to say something like you needed help getting changed. Your friend finding your diapers and putting them next to your bed isn't too bad for a loss of privacy. It could have been much worse, and it does sound like he was just trying to help. I wouldn't dwell on this too much.

For me personally I find the longer I deal with incontinence the less self-conscious and uptight about people finding out I get. In 2014 I was uptight and uncomfortable with my sister who is a nurse by the wayf finding out but now it's no big deal . Depending on the person, I no longer try to hide the diaper packages when when you come in my room much to the chagrin of my parents. Justej I think eventually you too come to terms and feel less self conscious about it. Just remember most adults have the decorum to not say anything. Also, the more at ease you are about it the more they too won't think it's a big deal. Thanks to campaigns like depend incontinence is gaining more awareness shattering stereotypes and making it more socially acceptable



Peace out!

Rob

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I've had a very embarrassing situation,
During high school I had managed to make a few friends, they knew about my condition but we never really talked about it openly.
One day at one of my friends houses I had a big bowel accident and went to their toilet to clean up and change, it's happened before so no big deal, I pulled down my pants and was ready to change when I slipped and fell really hard on my hand, broke my wrist and two fingers >.<
It hurt Everytime I moved so I just started still and basically called out for help...... It was so embarrassing, her parents had to break the lock and just saw me there in my diaper, my sister was full also -.-
Her father had to carry me into the car to take me to the hospital...... Luckily it didn't start to smell or anything..., that was probably the most embarrassing moment I've experienced, I'm still friends with her and she never broke it off or anything after that incident. Anyway her parents were really nice people anyway and I'm lucky it happened there and not somewhere else.
Anyway it was my left hand so I couldn't write so I didn't go to school which was a treat :p
But I couldn't change myself and my mother had to do it which at first was a little awkward cause she did it after a long time.

Justej,
To us wearing diapers is no different than most people putting there socks on in the morning. It takes time, like everyone has told you to adjust, I take it by him putting them by the bed, he was tiring to save you steps, so you could change. Take it as a blessing that someone would take the time to help you, that's a good friend.

Hi Justej


Your friend we just trying his best to help you out, try not to dwell on the fact he now knows you wear diapers for a medical issue he will be one of many as time pass's. He went the extra mile in placing your diapers where you can easily reach them and probably only had your best interest in mind.

Other people will find out over time, try not to worry about it.

mia,

I regretted reading of your broken wrist and the embarrassment that ensued. I walk like a drunk, and occasionally fall. My neurologist never forgets to remind me that every time I fall I could break a bone, which would put me in the same boat you were in. I hope that your fall did not cause you to suffer long-term disability and that everything is healed now.

Luckily no long term damage, it healed pretty well. Like I said me not being able to do anything without help until the cast was off was frustrating.