It's been a few months since I last posted an update, and it's time to vent again... I started taking Myrbetriq this past summer and initially had wondrous results. Efficacy started waning however, after a couple of months and I started wearing a pullup "just in case" if I was out in the afternoon/evening, when urges were more common, and it might be more than a short wait to get to a bathroom. Urges were rare and leaks were even rarer and very small when they did occur, but still having been embarrassed more than once, I felt better being safe than sorry.
Then I started noticing my joints hurt and muscles were unnecessarily stiff, but I thought, we're all getting older and ignored it for a while thinking it would go away. Then I started making stupid mistakes at work, lack of concentration and focus. So back off to my primary care Dr. I went in search of answers. Several blood tests later, nothing out of the ordinary (thank goodness), but still not ruling out all possibilities of some scary stuff for now.
Still, mistakes are expensive, and having learned from Toviaz, these types of drugs have many unintended side-effects including mental, so I decided to stop the Myrbetriq about 2 weeks ago.
The change was slow, with frequency going back up and capacity going back down and urges becoming more common. It's not as bad as it was at it's worst, but this was the first weekend out in a long time that I felt full protection was needed. Two full days out and about with friends; and diapers. I'm glad I had them. It reduced a lot of potential stress and worry. I still feel sorry for myself that it's necessary. But since stopping the drugs, the aches have significantly decreased and I think I'm thinking more clearly. The latter part is harder to be objective about from the inside

So, I guess if it comes down to a choice of wearing diapers when needed (I hope it doesn't come to 24/7), or not being "me", I'll have to find a way to incorporate the diaper into being "me".