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Let's start this general discussion where you can just keep "replying" to this topic and we might then have an on-going one post follows the other type of format.

This is not to discourage you from posting in other areas, it IS to encourage to post, period!

Richardtoo! Good to see you post! Where the hell is everyone from Beeter's Forum? Could you go thru your list of incon friends and tell them about Schoppy's page and forum?

We're trying to get the best Diaper Primer in the world up here. Look, we just added pictures. Do you wonder where we found the beached whale for a model to pin the diapers on?

We got a mention at the private Yahoo Group to which I belong. A reader in Scandinavia noted Schoppy's page and the Primer and announced it on the Yahoo site.

Joe K

It's me again, just checking to see if "post reply" will put this post up consecutive to the first in the Gen Discss.
Joe K

Cool! That works fine!

OK you people that are reading this section of the Forum. To get in on this general talk just hit "Post Reply" and type your comments. Scroll down and hit "submit" below this text box. That's all there is to it!
Joe K

I like this General discussion topic. Thanks for putting it up. Now if I can just remember where the "Post Reply" button is............. David

When I first began having wetting accidents I had the feeling that I was walking around under a spotlight, with all eyes watching me. When I began wearing first adult protective underwear and then diapers to deal with the wetting, the feeling intensified a lot. After four years, and now having added plastic pants to my incontinence wardrobe, I still have it now and then.

But much of the time, thank God, diapers and/or wetting are nowhere near the front of my mind. I can change a diaper in a public restroom without too much embarrassment, and, except for going swimming in the summer, I can enjoy most of the activities I used to engage in before the wetting began.

Had I known, years ago, that poorly managed diabetes could cause incontinence, I might have paid more attention to managing my blood sugar.

I've been wearing disposables of one type or another 24/7 for many years, first because I've had too many hernia operations from my previous line of work. Lifting destroyed my stomach muscles which requires me to wear abdominal belts tightly across the kidneys during the waking hours. Having done this for so many years, most of the time the only warning is warm and wet. Then diabetes reared it's ugly head and just added to the problem.
I used to be concerned that others might know what I'm wearing concidering bulk, noise or possible smell when wearing diapers and plastic pants. I keep the noise and bulk down by wearing cotton spandex panties over the diaper and plastic pants, and my wife says I never smell of anything but powder. The panties are much cheaper than bike shorts or anything else you can come up with and if something happens my mom would be proud of her training...they are always clean .
To be truthful, those days I take a chance and go without wearing my protection I feel naked...like there is something missing. It's part of my life, I've accepted it and life goes on. I have not changed my lifesyle since we camp, fish, or ride ATV's almost every weekend and have yet to have anyone say anything to me about what I'm wearing.
Once you come to grips with what you must do, find what works for you the best, and just move on with your life, I think you'll be better off and it will no longer be the issue it might be for you today. As stated elsewhere on this site, most people don't notice because they don't really care, and those that do notice will forget long before you might think.

Just a few thoughts based on my experience,

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JC
"I know who I am and what I must do...what everyone else thinks just doesn't matter"

Hi, I'm Adam, I would like to thank the people that made this Forum and the web site It's the best ive seen, and some thing i've been looking for for a long time. A bit about myself I had mild Urge incontinence and enuresis until just before my 30th birthday. when I had a small stoke (My boss didn't belive it when my wife called him from the ER ... Until the nurse yelled at him ). Since then I haven't had any bladder control. I really thought my life was over. Before the stoke I did everythig I could to avoid accidents. I hadn't had a major accident while awake in over 7 years and I was sleepwetting a few times a month. After my stroke I fell into a deep depression and barly left the house. I felt I couldnt go back to my old job ( I ran a kitchen line at a high volume restarunt). and I dropped out of my social activities (middle-ages recretion). So for over six months I stayed at home and took care of my then two and five year old girls. Lucky for me my wife has always been had a great additude about my incontinence before and after the stroke. in her words "I fell in love with the man, not his underwear" and "Our girls will be teenagers at the same time it's not like you will be seeing the bathroom for years anyway". It took another year to really come to terms with my lack of control and being in diapers all the time. When my youngest became pottytrained we went out for pizza and gave her a traing deploma that came with her potty chair, after we put the kids to bed my wife gave me an Hononray degree of toilet knowledge that she made on the computer. It was the first time i could laugh about it. I'm Not the same person I was, but I'm a Happy with my life

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Adam In Minnesota

As the father of two girls rapidly approching there teen years, LIKE I WAS GOING TO SEE MY BATHROOM ANYWAY.

Hi Adam! Glad to see you like the forum/website. Sorry to hear about your stroke. It seems like it doesn't take much after all to loose what we've all been taking for granted for the longest time! (not just continence either).

I think a lot of us do really stay more at home, somehow we get isolated, trapped at home - at least for a period of time. (I'm still somewhat there)

The only bad thing is, you just made me realize that, with 2 girls going to be teens soon, my access to the bathroom is going to be very restricted, nearly inpossible

Glad to see your wife accepts your medical condition like that. You're lucky to have such a understanding partner.

I agree with that, its solid advice that i would follow myself.