I made an appointment for a massage for myself for tomorrow afternoon so I could head into the weekend relatively stress free. Every time I go get a massage, I get a little uptight about the therapist working on my lower back as she inevitably comes in contact with the top of my diaper and the plastic rustling noise is quite obvious even though my bottom is covered by the sheet. She's been so cool about it so far and just goes about her business as though it doesn't bother her at all..........probably because it doesn't.
Each time I go, it gets less uncomfortable and I get less self-conscious. I make sure I've gone to the bathroom as much as I can and that I'm in a completely dry diaper before we begin which I feel is my responsibility and obligation to the therapist working on me. It's also been good practice for me to have to confront my own stigmatizing thoughts about incontinence because I get a little more desensitized each time I go. Massages are once again back on my list of good self-care activities as a result. I really thought I had to give up getting massages when I lost my bladder control but it really isn't a big deal at all anymore (I admit, this has taken a while....). I've told her many times and she just brushes it off each time, but I hope my massage therapist knows what a big deal it is to me that her professionalism has helped give me an important part of my life back.Other things I do for self-care....
going to the gym to work out
getting acupuncture
riding my motorcycle or taking a drive
working on my cars
going to movies (with friends or alone)
spending time with friends laughing
cooking a truly great meal and then savoring it
What do you guys all do??
CJ
