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Hello my husband was in an accident, crushed some vertabrae and is now suffering from incontinence. And partial paralyses At night he leaks and I have to get up and change him and the under pad. This is starting to effect daily life for me on the job. I have a hard time getting back to sleep after being woken. He is a side/belly sleeper. I have tried a lot of diapers to combat this. Some I have bought for him was tranquility atn,molicare super plus,tena super,attends extended wear and now abena m-4 these are working better than the others. Also tried the large abena but can't get a good fit around the legs. Can anyone suggest a better product? Really need a good nights rest here. Thanks and God bless. Diane.

I have no paralysis, but have had serious problems keeping my bed dry during the night.
My best solution was to use a disposable diaper with good absorbency, with a booster, and cover it
with a cloth diaper and a high back plastic pant. How big the cloth diaper is, I vary, as I sometimes suspect there may be an extra wet night.
After I started wearing this combination at night, I have had almost no problems leaking into the bed.
I still have a protective sheet in my bed, but now it is more like an insurance.

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Hi Diane, welcome to the forum... seems like you have tried all the top diapers on the market, now to figure out how to get through the night without having to get up... not an easy task, but can be done. A stuffer or liner, even two, will help quite a bit, cloth or disposable ones, and they help spread the wetness out more evenly as well, need trial and error to find out what you need for layers in a disposable to get through the night. An all-in-one cloth diaper over top will assure you make it to morning without any problems, that is the route I go on a night I think I may have more to deal with then normal. Limiting fluids prior to bed will also make less output of course, but not the healthiest way to cope, I would rather drink what I need to and dress for success, so to speak... Let us know how you make out with it all, lots of members here that deal with the same sort of thing, so lots of different angles on solutions, Puffy

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Puffy
BC, Canada
Fighting the "Bladder Battle" since 1995

Hello thanks for the replies. I had some plastic pants ordered from ebay. Those came today. I don't have any cloth diapers. But his day time care aide gave me an idea. To take some old sweat pants and cut the legs off and put them on under the plastic pants. I have some tranquility top liners ordered too. I'll report in tomorrow how tonight goes. At least last night he made it till 4:30 before getting woke up by a cold wet spot on the under pad.

Kins makes a lined cover pant, kind of what you are going to try with the cut down sweats, may want to look at what they carry, I have bought from them, very good to deal with, located in Canada, but will world-wide. http://www.babykins.com/store/terry-lin ... tic-pants/ Puffy

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Puffy
BC, Canada
Fighting the "Bladder Battle" since 1995

Welcome, Diane, to our Board. We have a lot of folks here with lots of experience and we feel your frustration when it comes to leaking onto the bed sheets at night. Many of our discussion threads have centered on keeping the bed dry when wearing disposable diapers. While the current "good" disposables are excellent for daytime protection when you are upright or sitting, they do lack sufficient padding in the side wings and a side sleeper will usually leak and a belly sleeper as well, because disposables do not wick wetness well. That is aggravating to have a diaper leak and often less than half of the padding has been wet / used.

Some of us have resorted to cloth diapers by night and wear disposable diapers by day but that introduces diaper laundry that many want no part of.

Some of us have had success stopping minor leaks by wearing plastic pants over a disposable diaper but many others of us find that is ineffective.....liquid that leaks from a disposable diaper will not stay in the plastic pants as there is nothing to absorb it. I am one who has had wet pants even when wearing plastic pants over my disposable diaper.

But Puffy's suggestion and that of the care aid are good ones. Cotton sweat pants over the disposable will act as a cloth diaper for minor leakage and the plastic pants will keep the wet sweat pants from getting the bed sheet wet. Try it and see; maybe two pair of sweat pants over the disposable and under the plastic pants, will be needed to provide the dry sheets you are after! Do be sure the sweat pants are completely tucked inside the plastic pants...even a little bit sticking out will wick wetness right out onto the sheets. Also consider "no wick" style of leg and waist bands on the plastic pants; they are often called "no wick" elastics or "encased" elastics. Babykins offers them, as does Gary. And there is a high back style of plastic pants that provides extra "depth" that is excellent for preventing bedwetting.

And if all else fails....there is the plastic bloomer style; with a high back and longish legs....they are pretty darn secure!

And in most cases, we are talking "minor" leakage. It may seem major, but it really does not take much liquid to make a cold miserable wet spot on the sheets. Then it becomes major because it is uncomfortable and interrupts your sleep!

Good luck

Success !!! Finally a good nights rest for both of us. Thanks for listening and for the welcomes. Had to post before heading to work. On the kins pants. Does the terry liner come out for laundering? For ease of drying. I'll stop back in then this eve. And yes the abena make a great day time diaper. Saves a lot on wet pants and saves on frequent changes. And no rash issues since using them. Have great day everyone.

Hey Diane, I am pretty sure the Kins terry-lined pants are an all in one style, they do not separate for washing. I have their All in one diapers, and they have held up well, not showing any signs of tearing or fraying yet, I have 4 pair and rotate them alone with disposables at night. I did buy an indoor drying rack for the aide of the hydro bill, as they are thick, and take longer to dry then everything else I own! Once they have partially dried, they get hung up for the rest. They pretty well guarentee no leaks if you use them over a disposable, so the terry-lined should be good for the problem, Puffy

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Puffy
BC, Canada
Fighting the "Bladder Battle" since 1995

Thanks for the info on the pants. Last night went well with the sweat pants and plastic pants combo. He don't like the idea of the plastic pants. We went through the same thing with diapers at 1st too. This is all a big adjustment for both of us i tell him and we will adapt. I tell him not to be ashamed and it's a better alternative than catheters. They used a foley and pads for BM when he was in the hospital and the cath caused a severe UTI. It was very painfull for him.

If there is only urine involved in his issues, then the external catheter system may be an alternative, many on here use it with success, including myself when I don't want to fuss with a diaper! Glues on "down there", connects to a collectiion bag and is not too difficult to figure out, may be worth a look? Puffy

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Puffy
BC, Canada
Fighting the "Bladder Battle" since 1995