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Thanks John, There are some good products on that site. I usually don't extend my search beyond Amazon, so didn't know they had pull up style cloth. I'm going to try those out.

Does it ever make you guys angry that in order for us to find the products we need we have to deal with those that CHOOSE to be in dipaers. That site had a lot of good stuff, but there was all this baby print stuff. Part of the problem we have with stigma is because of that stuff!

Yes flaggrl, there is a whole world of adult product out there, I have been using cloth for night time for a year an 1/2 now, and did not know where to start looking until I registered on here. I agree as well that there are more "AB" sites and products out there then "normal use" ones, but if people are comfortable using them, so be it, there is no harm as long as you keep the AB out of the loop. A bit of variety I guess, it can certainly be mentally tough to deal with all this, ad if that stuff takes a bit of the edge off, I can see that, not for me personally... I have enev avoided buying from t"those" sites when I could have gotted quality disposables at a great price, but another personal choice... to each his/her own in that case. All in all, cloth at night is a great solutionn to a miserable problem! Puffy

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Puffy
BC, Canada
Fighting the "Bladder Battle" since 1995

Yes, PART of the stigma of wearing diapers is the ab/dl group. But mostly it is people in general. "Normal, Everyday people," and most of us are guilty of it also. People go after those with "differences" i.e. too tall, too short, too thin, too fat, bald, funky hair color, color of skin, disabilities, etc.,etc.,etc. What motavates this? The need to feel "better" than our peers. Anger - "I got cut of by this fat, bald, midget!" Any one here ever use discriptive language similar to that? We all do it some, some do it more. We usually keep it to ourselves or the people we are with and not be TOTALY a jerk and rude by saying it to someones face. If everyone knew you wore diapers they or some of them would use it in a cutting way or anger moment at some point.
As far as the ab/dl etc people go I doubt very few of our friends or people we know even know they exist - did we before we were in diapers? I doubt it, I didn't. Buying from sites that cater to the fetish just gives us more options and choices and products. As Puff said - if it makes you smile or relieves some stress to have some variety in what we HAVE to wear - so what. It is a personal choice and plain or colors, prints or styles, this or that, they are still diapers. And we have to endure it period. The people that we do not want to know or say hurtful things about this, even in jest, are not the ab crowd - they are our friends and family. Papa

One word of caution, Flagrl, as you look at the all-in-one diaper. They have the waterproof covering covering the cloth diaper which requires them to be washed together each time. The waterproof covering will break down much more quickly with the repeated washings over using a seperate pair of plastic pants over your cloth diaper. I use only cloth at night but disposables during the day. I simply just rinse off my plastic pants each morning and occasionally will wash them un a mesh bag with my coth diapers. I usually wash every other day if I don't have to change during the night. It's a routine I've gotten use to over the many years I've been in a cloth diaper at night. .....Paul Martin