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@dianesw I hope you had some success with your walker friend. It's a terrible shame when people cut themselves off because of some perceived idea of what others might think. Life is too short to live in isolation. I also hope that your own bouts of "anxiety and depression" are minimal.

At the end of this month I have been in diapers for 9+ months and been IC for a bit longer (yes, I'm still a rookie). I'm not sure that I have totally accepted my IC yet. But today I decided to just tape on a Tranquility SlimLine and last the whole work day without a toilet as a form of IC celebration. While it doesn't feel like a celebration, it does represent a personal milestone. I'm no longer squeamish about pull-ups, briefs or cloth diapers. My nerve damage is incurable so I have chose to "make friends with diapers". Yes, I have accepted the fact that I need diapers. There- I said it.

Yet, I still struggle with self doubt. But I just keep telling myself that people would not like me peeing on their furniture. So I try to chuckle about it and get on with the life that I have been blessed with. I think that is about all that any of us can do.

I am also helping a relative who is in the beginning stages of Alzheimers (she lost her driver's license last year). She is losing her ability to remember things in the short term. What is discussed today is forgotten the next day, or in a few hours. That can be terribly frustrating when trying to help. She had some continence issues. So I gave her a pull-up sample to try on for size. She didn't resist the idea and was impressed that such products exist today (she doesn't use computers or internet). But when I revisited the topic later she had totally forgotten about it and says she is ok. Later on she thought that the cleaners stole her sample pull-up, sadly LOL. So this is going to be a long process. I know that she stays home on days when she is not confident about her continence. All I could do for now is print some information out about women's health for her as it relates.