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Does anyone ever just get mad because of this crap? I can't go beyond even ONE DATE, because there isn't a woman in the entire (*****) USA that has a care in the world for a man in diapers. Oh, they put on a show with a straight face and then it's adios amigo. Sometimes I just feel like saying (****) it all.


(edited for language)

Hey Joe Marty,
I understand where you're coming from. It's tough just having to deal with diapers, but trying to find a person of the opposite sex who understands is sometimes even tougher.
I've read many post from members on this board and other boards who have a spouse or girl/boy friend who understand being incontinent.
I assure you, there are people out there, but trying to find one can be tough. Joe, the right person is out there for you, but patience is the key, and even that's hard to accept. A person who can't have the patience to accept someone with our problem is not worth pursuing. True feelings for a person comes from the heart, not the head or brain of a person who can't look beyond your problem. Keep your head up, Joe. Don't let it get you down! .....Paul Martin

Hi Joe Marty
First off let me ask you to please refrain from using profanity on our board that certainly isn't necessary. As far as your issues with females goes I'm sorry your having the problems your having. With that said I don't really know your history. How long you have been with these females you point out. And how are they finding out about your problem.

I don't know this to be true for you so I'm just speculating to some degree here. But as far as the way people tend to go about finding a partner in our society. They act more on emotions of the mind rather then the heart. By this I'm saying often times people think they are in love when it's not love but more like lust of the mind or flesh.

My husband and I Never had sex before we were married. Thus there was no reason for him to know about my condition early on. He did figure it out after while. But by the time he did he was by this time so in love with me and I with him that a little thing like incontinence really didn't make it on the radar. Our relationship was built on a biblical basis. We never kissed or allowed ourselves to be put in compromising positions. As you may have put together by now we are both Christians or should I say Born again Christians. By having a relationship like this you build your relationship with the heart not the mind or by the lust of the flesh.

My husband is a very tall and strong well built man. Many men feel very intimidated by just his presents when they are around him. When I first laid eyes on him I knew I would marry him someday. Sure I thought to myself how is a guy like that going to deal with a person with my condition. Or would even want to deal with it. Well as I said before once he knew it was to late. He was in love with me from his heart that nothing else mattered.
.......................... Sandy

Thank you, Sandy!
JoeK

To everyone on here. I apologize for my language when I posted this. I had just been turned down again. No Sandy, I am not after sex. Not before marriage. The girl found out about me in diapers from another so called friend of mine. We had hit it off great for over a week. Until it came time for that first date. Oh well, I'll die single.

Hi Joe Marty
You may find that if you quit looking for the right woman that someday when you least expect it she will land right in front of you I've seen it happen many times ................................Sandy

Hey Joe Martry!
Sandy is right. Love will show up when you least expect it! I understand your frustrations. Any person who can't understand someones need like yours, and can't look beyond this problem for who you really are is not worth pursueing. It just takes patience which sometimes is trying. Don't push it too hard, Joe. It'll come sooner than you think. We'll keep you in our thoughts! Good Luck! .........Paul Martin