Hey tom!
It's not normal for you to have wet spots on your boxers despite wearing protection..after all thats what its there for, to keep you dry.
If you deal with slight to moderate leakage.. pullups are good.. but keep in mind.. they are good for dribbles and dribbls only. But even then, the problem wit them that i found was depending on where your penis is pointed.. you can leak out the side of the padding, thus no protection at all. You say you dont feel confident in a tape on brief.. i assume by confindent you mean at ease, worry free, not self conscious.. the noisy kind eh? you dont want to give up using hte toilet, and having something that tapes on is hard to get off..
If you can keep an open mind, i recommend trying out the Tena Ultra brief. I used to deal with moderate to heavy incontinence, and only often got it sliglty wet.. and it still fit good. The problem with pullups is they often feel loose on the body.
Now, for some pullups work great.. for some, they dont. I did not care for them.. i only bought one package of them, whereas i bought at least 20 packages of depend tape-on briefs.
See, the thing that distinguishes Tena Ultra from your everyday any other biref is that it is cloth backed, just like a pullup. And the tabs on the diaper are velcro.. allowing for easy refastineinng. I wore them for over a year until my problems got resolved.. and wearing a diaper doesnt necessarily lead to diaper dependence.
But, if you are not comfortable with the idea of wearing a diaper period.. thats ok. There are plenty of pull up products better than depend available to you.
Most of all, don't get too dependent on the pullup.. it may make things worse. Also, take heart. The fact i was moderate to heavy incontinent and now totally dry gives hope to you..i got dry, so can you
