I am new to this forum. Please let me express my thanks to all the nice people contributing here and of course the people that run it. Reading through the posts has helped me a great deal. I appreciate it.
Up until a little over a year ago, I experienced no problems whatsoever other than having to get up in the middle of the night to urinate. Over the course of the last 18 months I started feeling urges to urinate but did not think much of it as I was always able to make it to the bathroom. But then one day when I felt another urge, I could not make it to the bathroom and wet myself as my bladder just emptied itself without my being able to control any of it. Fortunately, this happened at home and it looked like it was a one-time thing for the following week or so. I was of course nervous and started making pre-emptive trips to the bathroom when I was out and about only to experience an embarrassing incident at a grocery store checkout line. Fortunately, I was wearing black jeans and thermal underwear. It was all soaked but at least I did not leave a puddle and was able to extract myself without anyone noticing. Fearing future incidents, I then purchased male guards which I found to be completely inadequate for my situation, tried pullups which frequently leaked due to my large voids, tried drug store tab briefs with the same result, and only found some reliability with various premium tab style diapers but still experienced relatively frequent embarrassing leaks. I did not have a good time. Of course I was hoping it would just go away but I eventually had the courage to visit my primary doctor while wearing diapers. I survived. He determined no diabetes and could not really find anything. He referred me to a urologist who put me through a series of tests and has so far also come up empty handed other than a slightly enlarged prostate. I will be heading for a neurologist next.
What is somewhat frustrating to me is that I have a fair amount of bladder control left but now find myself wearing Megamax diapers with a 2XL booster. This is the only protection I have found so far that keeps me leak free and gives me enough confidence so that I can start leading a normal life again. Maybe I will find something lighter that also works for me.
Like many here, I am concerned that friends and family might notice that I currently wear diapers. It does not help that I went from wearing nothing at all to a very bulky combination that anybody who looks would notice. I try to rationalize it or I try not to care but it is affecting me. It should give me comfort that I have never noticed any adult wearing diapers before. However, I could not help but notice when an elderly woman wet herself on an airplane. Wearing effective protection is obviously a better choice.
Like many here, I try to make sure that the diaper does not show when I bend down. When I go out I have so far been wearing long t-shirts that I have been tucking in and an untucked shirt over it. Now that it is almost summer, it is too hot. I recently found these ultra-high rise boxer briefs, that do a perfect job covering the diaper.
https://www.amazon.com/Ouruikia-Underwe ... B08HKXT43G. They may be useful to others as well.