sociologygeek,
Most refastenable tapes on disposable diapers are not very good, but there are a few exceptions. With most diapers once those tapes are fastened that's pretty much it until you change. Based upon what you have stated, I would think the pull up kind would probably be the best if you can find a brand that has some quality to it. However, if your going to stay with the diaper then I would recommend trying the Attends that have the cloth like outer cover. Ask your Medicaid rep. to send you a few samples. I mentioned this before, but ask your Medicaid rep. if the Medline Ultra Plus is one of those brands that are available to you. If they are, ask for a few samples. This is the brand I've been using for the last 5 months and they really are not bad at all and have a very good tape system.
It is really unfortunate that the federal program (Medicaid) does not provided better quality products. I have no complaints with the state program that provides my products. Thus far, they have provided both quality and quanity. All you can do is ask for a few samples and see what works best. Good luck.
