I agree with Puddleguy, the first few months are the worse. The sooner that you accept your situation the sooner your stress will ease up.
Everyone that is on this board and other boards either have (or is) going through what you are going through.
So you are not alone with this problem.
Its real hard to accept the fact that
(1) we do have a problem with our bodies,
(2) that we can not control our bladders or our bowels
(3) that now we have to wear protection of some kind.
(4) that protection is a "diaper"
As adults it is hard to accept the fact that we have to wear diapers again. Growing up we are told many times that only babies wear diapers. Well we are now adults and we have to wear diapers again. Its something that is hard for us to accept. Its real stressful, undignified, depressing, humiliating, and other terms.
Wetting our pants in the middle of the store and leaving a puddle on the floor is not a fun time. Even worse is doing it in the check-out lane.
It took me a long time to go back into that store again
Once we start accepting the fact that we have to wear diapers again, that stress level drops and we can start having fun again. Diapers are just a part of us now and we can still do what we want (with a little more planning at times). Yes we do have to start planing on when and where we will need to change, and if we need to have a spare diaper with us in case we need it.
Yes we do worry that other people "may" see that we are wearing a diaper, but trust me other people dont care. They are too busy with doing what they are doing and they dont pay any attention to what we "may" be wearing under our pants.
Unless we draw attention to ourselves, other people just dont care.
At times ill be talking to someone when I start wetting my diaper, ill think to myself "if they knew what I was doing they would freak out" or if its someone that I may not like I imagine that im peeing on them and will laugh to myself. Ive even told people to "go suck my wet diaper". HEHEHE that will take the wind out of their argument real fast.
The main thing is that you are not alone with what you are going through. There has been MANY MANY people that has gone through it and are doing a lot better now that they have accepted wearing diapers again. We can either accept that we are in diapers and enjoy life again, or we can keep worrying and getting stressed out and make our problem worse by getting ulcers.
Diapers can actually help us out, we can go to a movie and watch the entire movie or go to the grocery store or any other place and not have to worry that we may have an accident and people will see us. Or we can wake up in the morning and not have to wash the bed sheets again.
Life is too short as it is. Just take it one day at a time and keep going.
