I'm going to make a few observations on this and I'll admit to be a little concearned about some of the posts:
First I'd like to say that by the point a person is buying and wearing diapers, useing them can't really be 'wrong', for one thing I've never seen a right and wrong way list for diaper use other than dont put disposables inside out. I don't know on what basis such a judgement as 'wrong' could be made. Even if there were some objective guide for makeing such a judgement, it would be a continuum of shaded greys, not blacks and whites. NASA expects astronauts to use diapers on space walks, not come back in the ship, take off the pressure suit and use the toilet, which seems reasonable, but then there must be something a little less dramatic and a little less dramatic until each of us would find our own personal 'Ok, if that's the case I'd have gone to the bathroom instead' point. But then, that's just what it is, a personal call, not a judgement open to the scrutiny of others. There are a lot of discussions here about finding that personal comfort zone of using diapers, catheters and bathrooms, of trying to find a situation that seems reasonable and normal to us. Balancing convenience and practicality with our own ideas about what is acceptable behavior. In fact, it could probably be said that much of what we do here is trying to decide if we're behaving 'normally' and reasonably as incontinent people. We post our symptoms and detail the frequency and severity, and talk about how we manage this and that, but behind it I think we're often really asking not 'will this work' but 'is this ok to do?' The social stigmas and taboos around continence, incontinence, products, management. . . the use of shameing in childhood toilet training, the absurb victorian views of the body and elimination that persist. . . these things are emotionally very difficult. Perhaps I'm a 'liberal' when it comes to the use of protection, and when it's 'appropriate' to go in it, but yet I still feel that twinge of shame when I could have made it but decided whatever it was I was doing was more important than keeping a diaper dry (note this is the exact opposite of childhood toilet training, in which the message is often that NOTHING is more important than getting to the toilet). On the surface perhaps I sound lazy, until you consider that on a particularly bad day I could be in the bathroom 20, or 30 times, and even in my own house would likely or certainly STILL have some accidents, never mind away. Considering that, would you have me stand in the bathroom all day, and thus do the 'right' thing, and not wet anything, or should I keep a job, shop, visit with friends, read this forum. . . you know, have a life instead. . . remember, it will lead to wetting when I could have waited near the bathroom and stayed dry?
I'll offer this, while I generally prefer absorbent underwear around the house, and making it to the toilet when I can, I'm sometime fed up enough to tape on a premium diaper, and use it for the hours it lasts just so that I don't have to keep going to the bathroom over and over. Is that 'lazy'? I think a better question is 'How important is staying dry, and how big a deal is a wet diaper?' I can answer than (mostly) for myself, but I can't answer it for anyone else. I'd have to say that's up to them, because it sure isn't affecting me.
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