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I have been incontinent for about a year now although for the first few months my problem was so slight it wasn't really noticeable. It started with some slight dribbling during the day. I would notice that sometimes my underwear would be slightly damp or by the end of the day urine stained. This continued on and off until about 7 months ago I woke one morning to find I had wet the bed. I was shocked because although as a child and teenager I was a chronic bedwetter I hadn't wet the bed for many years and certainly not since being married. I was very embarrassed but fortunately my wife was very understanding and said not to worry. Like me she had been a late bedwetter and also she works in a care home for the elderly so deals with incontinence on a daily basis.
She suggested that I should see the doctor who refered me to a urologist and following various tests it was decided that my incontinence was caused by my slightly enlarged prostate and my diabetes. I now take pills to combat these effects. I was also refered to a continence nurse to help and advise with the practical side of managing incontinence as I soon discovered the bedwetting wasn't a one off.
My wife soon got a waterproof cover for our bed plus a kylie for me to sleep on. I now wear tena maxi pads and net pants at night which for the most part contains my night time wetting which now happens about 3 or 4 nights a week. During the day I wear washable incontinence briefs with a built in pad or tena male pads level 2 inside normal underwear.
If I am away from home I sleep in tena pull ups which are easier to dispose of and deal with than net pants and pads. We have a light weight bed pad that easily goes in my now necesary travel beag with pants and pads, nappy cream etc.
I am so grateful for having such an understanding partener who has helped me adjust to my new situation. It has certainly been a learning curve.
My incontinence seems to show no sign of improvement but fortunately seems to be stable at the present level which I have become acustomed to coping with and find it just a minor inconvenience rather than a major problem.
Talking to the continence nurse and urologist helped a lot and I was quite suprised to be told there were many men my age with similar problems.

Congratulations on quickly learning how to so what is necessary to manage your condition. It sounds as if you are adapting well.