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I've got a spare diaper in all my cars. Was a little problem, though, on my wife's little sports car, but I finally found a spot. I nned to do what you do, Sandy, and keep some wipes and diaper cream handy. Changing without those will lead me to a rash most likely. ..................Paul Martin

rashes suck

Amazing how Schoppy can describe this condition to the "T" in just two word! Boy, once you get one, it takes a lot to get through it, too. ........................Paul Martin

Well my new friend came over the other day with her kids. Let me tell you they were really great well behaved and so on. We had a nice talk about girl things. and some ended up talking protection. She had never heard of some of the brands I use like tranquility ATN Abri form Molicare or even Prevail I gave her a few of them to try. Well I saw her this morning she stopped in and asked were can I get some of these . Looks like I'll be buying for someone else as well. She said she had no idea that there was products like these out there. She said she wore the abri form super x plus to bed and then through better then 1/2 the day yesterday until it started to get to uncomfortable. She said again I never knew such protection existed. She told me that she has to sleep on a pad at night because more often then not the depends or the assurance briefs would leak at night. She said she woke up with the abri form and wasn't sure she wet during the night or not. No leaks and she felt rather dry as well. She did say that most of what I gave her was overkill for daytime use. But at night WOW She was saying she rarely could sleep a solid 8 hours because she would wake up wet at 3 or 4 in the morning and have to change. I told her well at least you wake up. I guess that's a two way street depending how you look at it. I was telling her you like those you should try cloth. She didn't seem to interested in that.
Anyway I'm being called got to go.............Sandy

Sandy,
I assume this new friend you're speaking of is the girl who works at the gas station. I'm just assuming this, but she must not have access to the internet, or she just didn't think to look there for some better protection. She's having a rough time at night. I always have to change at night even using a better disposable diaper. If she uses what you suggested, she should do a lot better and get a complete night's rest.
She may not have much interest in cloth diapers since she doesn't know much about them. Of course, she may be thinking of the washing required. If she does have access to the internet, she could go to some sites that sell cloth diapers and plastic panties to see what is out there. Also see some testimonials of people who use cloth at night and how they like it. She may not have told you this, but how does her husband handle her incontinence? Is he supportive like your husband? I was just curious. Good to hear from you again, Sandy! .......................Paul Martin

Yes she's the one from the gas station. No she doesn't have a computer. She is married. he drives truck. It sounds like he's around in the evenings more often then not but as of yet I haven't met him. He sounds like he's good with the kids. she seems fairly content. She did mention that he can be impatient with her when it comes to her problem. I gathered he does get upset with her when she has accidents meaning leaking on the bed beyond the pad or if she leaks on the furniture. And like the rest of us it seems that there are times when she is told she's lazy. I was thinking of tring to get him together with my husband. I'm not sure how to do it or what the age differance is. But maybe if he would speak with my husband he would learn a few things and maybe ease up a little. Once again I'm reminded of what a wonderful man I married............ Sandy

Sandy,
It sounds like you trying to get your husband to talk with her husband would be a great ideal. The way you speak of your husband, he could help him understand the ups and downs of incontinence. It's tough enough having to suffer with incontinence, but having a partner who doesn't really want to understand can really make it rougher!
Good Luck trying to get them together. You're really great! ..............Paul Martin

Eleven pages and coming up on 3000 views!

Way to go, Sandy!

Sorry, I've been kind of silent, but I'm here several times a week. My slow connection is a big turn off. It takes so long to go from page to page and forum topic to forum topic...but I'm out in the boondocks and any connection is better than none! <grin>

CONGRATULATIONS, Paul M. now a Moderator!

Sandy, your story is incredible and keeps everyone coming back. Please keep up the great news, even if it seems only you and Paul M are "talking" the nearly 3000 views points out a hell of a lot of us are reading, just not posting.

I've really enjoyed sharing my incon tips with others over the years but all of it done thru the web. I think Sandy's face to face "helping others" is incredible. Sandy, your discovering your new friend knew nothing about the execellent protection available is a major victory. She has no computer so she would never learn of what's available...the info we take so much for granted. Us "veterans" as Sandy so aptly puts it.

That woman, like a lot of others, I suspect, was suffering in silence with no way to ever discover what's available. Sandy opened up a whole new world to her. If only we could do that for ALL the incons still suffering with leaks and embarrassment and not knowing where to turn!

JoeK

1) Quoting our Schoppy:

<<rashes suck>>

Ah yes, he's a man of few words but always gets his point across! I don't know which is worse...the itch or the pain! It is better to work to avoid rash as much as possible. Never take your skin for granted!

2) Great to see Brewman posting here! (Hi, Boss!) (other boss, that is)

3) Sandy's great story about daring and....a wet seat in hubby's truck.

Again, Sandy is providing excellent, practical information! Just saying "when in doubt, change!" are words for us to live by. Sandy is a veteran of disposable diapers and new to cloth. I think both Paul M and myself were delighted to see you comment "I should have worn cloth" ony because those who've never worn cloth just can't believe how "forgiving" cloth can be. I've worn cloth diapers all my life and still find times I can't believe I didn't leak when, by all rights, I should have!

I don't like to talk about those instances, since it does constitute abuse of the skin going as long as I have gone. Just let me quickly add it has been very rare occasions and I do not condone extended wet diaper wear!

But back to disposables and thinking (as Sandy did) that she could make it and thus avoid the hassle of a diaper change, especially a diaper change away from home. I really don't blame her at all. I'm one that would tempt fate the same way. So her admonishment: "when in doubt, change!" is very appropriate for all of us!

The talk about a pad for the seat is fine, but in our real world one usually doesn't bother. Or should I say "I" don't bother. I do at least keep a disposable diaper in every vehicle, but should keep a disposable underpad as well. Those things are pretty light and small and if there is doubt-or the traffic jam that Sandy encountered at the worst possible time, well, it might be better than nothing. I know of no way to change a diaper when alone in a vehicle in a traffic jam unless you can pull over and get out of the traffic and even at that....there will be no privacy to change unless you are lucky enough to have a van!

So that old saying that's been around forever...."Keep your powder dry" which means to be prepared (for a charging bear or an enemy attack) can be modified for our purposes to "keep your diaper dry" which will leave us "prepared" for the unexpected delay and extended diaper wear time.

If you'll allow me to crow some more about cloth, especially with Sandy finally jumping on the cloth diaper bandwagon, I have driven other peoples vehicles with no external seat protection when I am in the first 6 hours of diaper wear, knowing that should something untowards happen, I can go to 10 or even 12 hours without leaking.

JoeK

Well I gave a bag of the Tena Ultras to my new friend. I had a pack of the old style ones I gave her to try. She's really happy with them. She was telling me how dry she feels even when she knows she's due for a change. She also likes the wider crotch area.

I went into the gas station the other night. she was wearing a new pair of jeans that were much looser on her She said until I said something about having to tight of jeans it never occurred to her that looser would be better. She did ask if she was showing I said not at all. And really she wasn't. She whispered to me I have one of those ultras on you gave me. I later said I thought for you those were over kill during the day. She said well yes but I'm finding I can go most of my shift if not all of it without changing.

She had also told me that I was right about the looser fitting pants and having a pair of brief style panties over her protection to help hold it in place and cover up any noise.

.......................Sandy