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We all have ups and downs with incontinence... When it happens suddenly without warning and it is a recent occurance, we are shocked, and are in denial. I expereinced that last May of 2014, when out of the blue, at work.. I started wetting myself. I was so embarassed.. The obvious chcoice was to buy some protection off the shelf... Walmart sells Depend, but I did not want to, because I knew all the people on 3rd shift, including hte cashier.. I had no choice but to go home and get 3 pairs of underwear and change my underwear every break and hope to heck that i dont wet through my pants.
Justej, it might help to only take things one day at a time. Some things I have told my self is that the bladder is like any other part of the body, it can go wrong. Diapers are really nothing more than another form of underwear. As far as them seeing you in diapers.. they have seen it before. My urologist is totally cool with me wearing protection. I cringe when I hear of urologist implying that an icnontinet indiviudal should not wear diapers.. what exactly do they expect us to do, wet ourselves and smell like urine? To live chained to the toilet day in and day out? I for one will not do timed toileting because while it might keep my underwear dry, i would live my life revolving around a toilet. and i REFUSE to do that. Life is too short to worry about how often I pee in the toilet or whether I make it.. when I know half the time i wont make it to the toilet despite trying to hold it back.

As far as dating, dont worry about it. Those who really are for you wont mind.. and those who do mind.. arent for you.


Just be strong.. we will get through this. Life goes on, even with a leaky bladder!

Peace out!

Rob

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What and how do you tape your diapers then? Duct tape?


Glad you are doing well!! And pedaling your Prius had me cracking up!! I needed that, thanks!

Rob, great advice! Were you channeling your inner Dr. Seuss?

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I suffer very severe depressions, from time to time, has had me suicidal and in a Mental Health Unit twice, in comparison incontinence is a walk in the park! As someone else said, it doesn't kill! Just embarrasses, fortunately for me, both my depression and my incontinence come and go, the depression is generally well managed these days with medication, the good thing about depression is I tend to get some warning of a downward spiral but generally I know nothing about a bout of bladder problems until I wet myself!
Being in the MHU whilst wearing nappies is hugely embarrassing as they really don't know how to handle things and they won't allow the pads, in their plastic packaging, on the ward for safety reasons so I was having to get a pad from a member of staff each time, they also insisted on supervising my change so that the wet nappy could be remove straight away.

I suffer from bipolar depression. It has caused me to be hospitalized around 12-15 times due to psychotic mania and depression. I also suffer from a diffuse neuropathy which effects my digestive system and urinary system causing me to be completely incontinent. Anytime I go to a behavioral health unit, they let me bring my own diapers. I wear Confidry 24/7. They generally don't say anything to me. Bedwetting is very common in psych units. I know I'm not the only one in a diaper. The most embarrassing part is when they do the skin exam. I try not to sweat it though. Being in diapers around health professionals doesn't bother me. Having to wear diapers doesn't bother me near as bad as having severe depression.