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Hi ted here again. Well. I got the call back from the doctor yesterday. Once again the medical profession has shown me what they think of their patients. When they called me back the receptionist informed me that my problem isn't serious enough for the doctor to see me. Then told me that if I still thought it was that bad, that I should go to the emergency room. I was dumb founded to say the least. I don't fault the receptionist. She was having a really hard time informing me of the nazi doctors decision. I went from optimistic about resolving this whole thing to total meltdown. I spent the rest of the day in a rage and then took it out on my wife.
I felt really bad about this after the fact. Fortunately she understood my frustration and forgave me..... Once again a big CHEERS! for American style medicine.

This makes the fourth time I've had to confront a callous and even dangerous medical profession. The three other times I could have easily sued. The problem is I feel a lawsuit is unethical.

Pease forgive my rant..sorry....Ted

Ted,

Your not the only one who have been told by doctors, it is not as serious as you think. For example, I have complained about my sugar levels getting below 70 and all I was told was to change my diet. I too have directed angry towards people that didn't deserve the outburst. I have realized the errors of my ways in the past and try to redirect the angry. Sometimes it is difficult to say the least.

Hi batman, Well, what happened was my wife spoke to my daughter about the jerk of a doctor. My daughter has had way too many serious health problems and has dealt with immense pain on account of it. She told her mom that her physician was fantastic, considerate and extremely knowledgeable. She offered to try to get us in as patients of his practice. She called and put in a plea and he agreed to take us. He was not accepting new patients but took us on anyways. I think I like him already. His receptionist talked to my wife and was very pleasant and understanding. I'm going to see him on the 29th. I'm really starting to feel better about this whole ordeal. With first my family and now a decent doctor I've felt like a huge load has been taken off me. Ted

I've been there, Ted......I have a lot of contempt toward the American healthcare system, particularly doctors. Far too often I get the impression that they just want your $100 for your 15 minute time slot. They want to give you pills, Botox, or interstim and send you on your way. If they don't work......oh well.....that's unfortunate for you......they drive off towards home at the end of the day in their expensive car to their big mansion with their health and we struggle silently every minute of every day. Some of us are working one or more jobs to make ends meet, wearing diapers all the time and trying to afford the ridiculous cost of "good" healthcare which truly sucks for working folk like me (us)
If I was illegal I'd have access to phenomenal healthcare........but I digress......in the case of incontinence or other vague medical symptoms that could be caused by a myriad of things, you have to be your own advocate and tell them what YOU want or need. The only one who gives a shit about you is YOU!!!!!!! Sorry if I sound hostile, but that is my experience after being to 13 doctors with more questions now than when I began having problems nearly 2 years ago. Unfortunately when I get the run around from yet another arrogant asshole doctor who doesn't seem to posses a pair of ears to listen or the brains he was born with, I get anxious, which leads to getting upset and it spirals to a full on anxiety attack which is commonly aimed at my wife who definitely doesn't deserve that and only wants to see me back out of diapers and problem free. I feel your pain there. They shoulder a lot of burden on our behalf. My wife is an ER nurse so she knows how the healthcare system works and about health in general.

Best of luck and stay dry!!!

Hello PBJ, What you said sounded like it came out of my mouth. We are really close in our impressions of our health care system. I'm going to a new GP later this month. This will be the first time I've admitted to a doctor that I've had a problem. He's already aware of it by nature of the appointment, so I won't be able to duck the issue like I have for years. I've been in denial for almost fifteen years. Now I'm just getting so tired of this mess ruling my life. I let my close friends and family know about my incontinence and I was amazed how considerate they were about it.

My wife could care less about the diapers. She's just so supportive. She feels that if diapers are the easiest way for me to handle the incontinence then use diapers. So what.... My major concern is that I'm not dealing with something serious. Three friends my age have died this pat year and this seems to be a wake up call for me. Also the urge incontinence I'm experiencing seems to be slowly getting worse. So off to the doctor I go. I don't know if I can cope with the full battery of the Urologists tests. So if everything looks good without digging deeply and spending thousands of dollars then I'll try the meds. If they don't work, diapers aren't the end of the world for me. Especially seeing how my friends and family accepted my news. Thanks again for you thoughts, Ted

Ted, I am sorry to hear of the loss of your friends. Hopefully you find some resolution!!

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