Papa wrote:
mlhjr, You are so right. Having a good wife, husband or partner makes it all so much better. Mine has accepted it from the beginning, more so than I did. Her humor kept me going when I was at my wits end. I did not always appreciate it and have apologized to her for being "grumpy" (A nice way of putting it) and not understanding how lucky I was to have someone who could laugh or kid about something I did not find funny. But you can understand that I think. Over the last few years I have loosened up and the humor and openly discussing practical matters about wearing diapers and making "lemonade from lemons" has allowed me to focus on more important matters.
I tried to handle all aspects of incontinence totally alone. Buying my diapers, washing them, drying them, folding them what I wore and so much more. At one part of it all I made sure the diapers never showed. She put up with it, and more, but one day when I rushed to throw on a pair of shorts when she walked in on me she had had enough. "Seriously?" she said. "What the hell are you doing? I have seen you in diapers and plastic pants for years and now you are embarrassed? Really? For the love of God relax. I love you. I could care less if you are more relaxed in just diapers and plastic pants. So loosen up!" We had a long talk. She knew how angry I got at times and frustrated. It was a turning point. But she also likes getting in the last word. As she headed out to go food shopping she walked by me patted my butt and when she got far enough away turned toward me and said, "You know what? I think you look so cute in diapers and laughed as she made a bee line to the car and I was in pursuit. I still have times of deep anger and angst, not all because of wearing diapers. But I have learned that she is one special woman and her understanding and love have always been there when I needed it.
And on a side observation, it is not that I have to wear diapers that bugs me so much it is that I use them and have no other choice. Papa
Papa MHLJR, sounds like you guys have keepers! Good job!!