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| Author: | Wetters [ Mon May 25, 2015 8:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Truce |
The bed wars in my household appear to have ended - for the moment, at least. I've been successful at containing and concealing my night wettings and the bed has been dry. For the last several weeks, The Hubbs has been treating me with more civility and consideration. Out of sight (and tactile sensation), out of mind, I guess. Wetters |
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| Author: | MSUSpartan [ Tue May 26, 2015 12:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
It's awful that respect is based on the illusion of continence. |
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| Author: | Wetters [ Thu May 28, 2015 11:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
In an effort to be as discreet as possible, I've stopped using my surface bed pads. I haven't needed them since I switched to Abri-Flex pull-ups, but I'm apprehensive. I've grown somewhat emotionally attached to the bed pads, and for that reason as well, it's good for me to break away. Wetters |
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| Author: | Rope_Wrench [ Thu May 28, 2015 6:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
Wetters, Try putting the bed pads under the sheet. This way it will still protect the bed from getting stained. Also out of sight, out of mind. |
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| Author: | JDinVirginia [ Thu May 28, 2015 7:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
Pardon my commenting in the ladies' forum, but, like Rope, I put my pads under the sheet. It just looks more like normal living. I am a side-sleeper and we all know that disposables often leak from the side. Therefore I go to bed with a cloth diaper on top of the disposable. That combination does not leak - but I keep the pads under the sheet just in case. More peace of mind for myself and for my wife.  --John |
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| Author: | Wetters [ Fri May 29, 2015 2:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
Thanks, Guys. We have a couple of waterproof mattress covers, and my husband gets annoyed when the sheet gets wet. Also, I don't like to disturb his sleep or to strip/clean/make a bed in the middle of the night. I "invented" (think Al Gore) surface bed pads in 1999 when I had an epiphany during a middle-of-the-night bed stripping. I worked out the dimensions and construction, then got a catalog in the mail the next day that had just what I was looking for. Wetters |
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| Author: | MSUSpartan [ Fri May 29, 2015 2:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
I keep a mattress cover below the sheets, and in the unlikely event my diaper leaks, I grab an old towel from the linen closet, throw it over the wet spot, and go back to sleep. This given me the most normal sleeping arrangement most nights, and the least disruption to me wife, as I can deal with the sheets in the morning. |
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| Author: | Papa [ Sat May 30, 2015 5:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
Wetters, There comes a time when we have to "bite the bullet" and stop playing around with our incontinence. Too many of us, me included, started off trying to get away with the minimum of protection. The idea that a smaller diaper somehow makes it less of a diaper seems to make one feel better about wearing protection. But the word protection is the key. Less is NOT going to make us feel better because it is not going to work. But we have all played that game. If a dry and warm bed makes you and your husband find that 'truce' then always have a dry bed. There are diapers that will do that for you. I can not really remember the last time my bed got wet. Oh a few light wet lines from leaking around the leg openings has happened but they dry up in a short time and they happen after I have come back to bed to have coffee with my wife and I am sitting up which puts pressure on my diapers. I, years ago, just pushed "pride" aside and went for dealing with this situation realistically. I wear two night weight cloth diapers, one will usually work, but two ALWAYS works. Think of it this way. If you are going out in a heavy rain - what works better - a small umbrella or a large umbrella? The small one is easy to handle and carry but the large one keeps you dry. Stop playing around with this and find the protection / diapers that will, at a minimum, keep that truce lasting forever so you can deal with all the other things life throws at you. Papa |
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| Author: | Rope_Wrench [ Sat May 30, 2015 8:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
Well said Papa. |
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| Author: | PB&J32 [ Sat May 30, 2015 9:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Truce |
I'm sorry you can't feel accepted by your husband, Wetters.....I know the feeling all too well. Having problems with ones bladder is hard to accept. It makes daily living extremely hard and places a lot of limitations on life. Having a partner that isn't 110% supportive is worse than wearing diapers, leaking, and being wet. My heart goes out to you......I hope you're otherwise well...... |
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