Hi Porkchop (Seriously i love that name) lol
War is indeed a very traumatizing experience for everyone involved.
Unfortunately mental healthcare and urology are...lacking fields of medicine to say the least
And unfortunately many therapies don't necessarily work well for everyone.
But in my journey I learned a number of tricks I found to be more helpful aside from herbal remedies, teas, and
Cymbalta (God this med was pretty helpful) - especially the concept of mindfulness.
You can speak with your therapist for more details. Basically mindfulness refers to "being present in the moment- not in the past and not in the future".
Instead of being overly critical, you merely kind of observe and 'gently focus' on what's around you. It is kind of Daoist concept- and reminds me of
my kung fu classes when I was little. Always stay in the present moment- focusing and observing yourself, your opponent and surroundings. If you focus on the past or the unhappened future then you will miss your target
Though mindfulness by itself didn't "cure my PTSD", it definitely was and is a tool I can use
to help me decrease my heightened anxieties and fears. Also it kinda lets me better accept my incont. and condition instead of feeling frustration, regret,
anxiety and intense fear. Most days I listen to this guided meditation I came across online (
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFeeFHOQ64E), especially when I have panic attacks or increased fear & anxiety- this helps refocus my mind
The tummy/abdomen massage I found online while researching my litany of health pains & problems
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBdWbYakqGoBasically the massage helps to supplement the peristalsis- your digestive process
As for 'discreet diapers', I recommend a good pair of plastic pants and a onesie. Plastic pants as i mentioned above can cover up any odors, small leaks and sounds of your diapers. The onesie keeps everything in place. This also prevents diaper sag and any unwanted rising of your shirt. In addition, a good onesie really helps slimline your figure.
I found this combination give a lot of flexibility in range of protection and am able to somewhat wear louder and thicker diapers under clothing when need to- even at work.
Personally I mostly wear the Northshore Supremes - they are very high capacity. Although they are plastic backed, they are very quiet. If you need something thinner, you can also check out the Northshore lites which is a thinner version of the Northshore Supremes (
http://www.northshorecare.com). The Northshore supreme are a little bit pricey. But if you use the discount codes from incontinentsupport you can save 10% off. They are cheaper than the Dry 24/7 diapers but comparable to them in quality and performance.
I have heard great things about the Gary Activewear PUL Plastic pants. I myself like the PUL pants made by Kins and ordered them from Changingtimes.
http://changingtimesdiaperco.com/(The PUL pants Changingtimes sell are actually made by Kins. Kins also has great onesies but shipping outside of Canada is pricey and unfortunately havent found a reseller more local in the US.)
As for the onesie, mslorainex on ebay makes fabulous 'wear to work' onesies.
http://www.ebay.com/usr/mslorainex?_trk ... 2749.l2754The onesies are a bit expensive but definitely worth it in saving me from any worry about bending over, sags, diaper showing etc. And they are pretty comfortable
Sorry I was rambling a bit. Hope this is helpful to you.